Winter Whit
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My son is 24 and he brought his 20 year old girlfriend to my house to spend Thanksgiving. They flew in on Saturday, and his girlfriend seemed like a very sweet girl. Respectful, beautiful, she has a great personality, and we talked for a long time about her ambitions to be a teacher, and her religious upbringing - I was so happy for my son for a few days.
I'm having them sleep on separate floors because I don't approve of any relations in my home. Today I went to work, but when I come home around 5, there they are right in the middle of my dining room floor having sex! I raised my sons to wait until marriage, and I do believe that premarital sex is a terrible sin. I waited, as did my husband, my parents, his parents, and most of our siblings. I also find it extremely disrespectful that they would do such a disgusting thing on my living room floor. If they were going to do this, they could at least leave my house. I'm disappointed in his girlfriend as well, and I don't know what to say to either one of them. I know he's 24 and all, but there is disappointment when your kid doesn't act the way he was raised. Also, it is just scarring to see your own child being intimate with a woman.
They both apologized several times, but I can't believe they really are sorry. My son told me it was just a spur of the moment thing, which just makes me more upset. I didn't know my son was in a sexual relationship, and I wish he was married. How do I handle this, and what do I say to them? We haven't been talking all night.
I know its midnight, but I just can't get it out of my head. I want to make things right, and I know that he's 24 and he can do what he wants, but it doesn't stop me from being disappointed in them. Plus, I don't want to spend the rest of the weekend not talking to them because of what happened, but I can't bring myself to say anything to them, or even look at either one. It's just the way I was raised, and the way I raised my children.
I'm having them sleep on separate floors because I don't approve of any relations in my home. Today I went to work, but when I come home around 5, there they are right in the middle of my dining room floor having sex! I raised my sons to wait until marriage, and I do believe that premarital sex is a terrible sin. I waited, as did my husband, my parents, his parents, and most of our siblings. I also find it extremely disrespectful that they would do such a disgusting thing on my living room floor. If they were going to do this, they could at least leave my house. I'm disappointed in his girlfriend as well, and I don't know what to say to either one of them. I know he's 24 and all, but there is disappointment when your kid doesn't act the way he was raised. Also, it is just scarring to see your own child being intimate with a woman.
They both apologized several times, but I can't believe they really are sorry. My son told me it was just a spur of the moment thing, which just makes me more upset. I didn't know my son was in a sexual relationship, and I wish he was married. How do I handle this, and what do I say to them? We haven't been talking all night.
I know its midnight, but I just can't get it out of my head. I want to make things right, and I know that he's 24 and he can do what he wants, but it doesn't stop me from being disappointed in them. Plus, I don't want to spend the rest of the weekend not talking to them because of what happened, but I can't bring myself to say anything to them, or even look at either one. It's just the way I was raised, and the way I raised my children.