Cant shake image of Partner being with an Ex?

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Ultimo

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I recently got back with my ex girlfriend, we went out for 3 years and split up for 7 months and have been back together for a month. In the time apart she had starting seeing someone else who she split up with before we got back together.

For some reason I cant shake the image of those two being together after I saw a photo of them, I know that she loves me and I love her as we have told each other many times. I havent dated anyone else in the time apart but did fool around lived the single life and slept with someone in our time apart and she's done the same and had slept with 2 guys. It makes it more crazy as weve both done stuff in the time apart but I cant shake this image even though I know we both feel strongly for each other and the relationship is working and I feel talking about this one thing may make things odd between us what can I do?
 
you have to suck it up and get over it or you'll just wind up splitting up again.
 
If your relationship is working why should it matter who she has been with before. We cannot erase our past however much we want to, she is with you not her ex so be happy.

I have had a bit of an on/off relationship with my boyfriend. We both had other relationships when we weren't together but we can talk openly about them because we both love each other and know we are meant to be with each other. You also saw other people when you weren't with her, she might feel the same way.

It sounds silly but write your girlfriend a letter, write down all your feelings and fears and then don't give it to her burn it. Let that be an end to it and move on with your life. If this eats you up you won't be great boyfriend material and you might lose her.
 
Talk about it bro. Tell her your feeling insecure about certain things. That you can't shake that image. I'm sure she might have some insecurities too. If you hide these things from your partner, and don't tell her. You'll end up doing something stupid, saying something spiteful. Or acting out. Unless you open up to her, you'll end up resenting her.
 
if you can try to talk to her about it or to another close friend, other wise write down how your feeling onto paper and everything regarding it and then burn it ... i no it may sound silly but it helps

if you talk to her she may be feeling the same way as you both have been with other people...

good luck hope it helps
 
Spend as much time with her as possible - take plenty of pictures of the two of you to try and get some new memories and images in your head. Spending plenty of time together ought to take care of it, I mean, she's with you now, right? Nothing to be jealous of, you're the bigger man! Hope everything goes well ♥
 
Spend as much time with her as possible - take plenty of pictures of the two of you to try and get some new memories and images in your head. Spending plenty of time together ought to take care of it, I mean, she's with you now, right? Nothing to be jealous of, you're the bigger man! Hope everything goes well ♥
 
She did nothing wrong. You were split. The past is the past, and we can not undo it. You will have to accept what she did, and she will have to accept what you did. She is not your property. She is a human being that makes mistakes, just like you. If you put someone on a pedestal, they can't live up to your expectations. You must accept that they are human too. Don't destroy what could be a good relationship over foolishness like that. It is all in your messed up head. Time to grow up, if you want to really be serious with someone. Just think, it could have been longer and a lot more guys than that! You should never have split in the first place if you loved her. What about you, you did the same? Be mature about this and quit putting expectations on others that even you can not live up to.
 
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