I'm 26 and he is 31. We have been together for 3 years and have an 8 month old son. Everything was great, but I soon learned that he was putting on the "good husband" act once we got married. In reality, he is the biggest slob. The second we got married, he stopped showering everyday, stopped brushing his teeth, would leave the couch smelling of a**, picked his nose and countless other things. The house has become hoarders-r-us and he'll make a mess as fast as I clean up. The thought of kissing his yellow, decaying chipped teeth makes me gag. There's no talking to him. He thinks that if I'm married, I have to live with this. So I stopped being affectionate towards him. Stopped having sex with him and even kissing him.
After months of arguing and him not wanting to change, he now started brushing his teeth and showering and expects sex immediately. He'll come out the shower and expect that I should be jumping him instantly. I'll admit that he's ALMOST back to the way he was when we were dating, but I am so turned off by him before that he could look like a model now and I wouldn't want him. I can't regain the desire I had for him before and thus I can't have sex with him. I still see the gross man that would pick his nose and rub it on his shirt and not brush his teeth for 3 weeks at a time. Our marriage is dead, isn't it?
PS - I still look great and get hit on daily (in case you're wondering if I've let myself go).
He never looked like a model... far from it! I said that even if he started looking like a model, I can't get the image of this slob off my mind. He thinks that brushing his teeth is something special he's doing for me that requires reward (sex) in return!
After months of arguing and him not wanting to change, he now started brushing his teeth and showering and expects sex immediately. He'll come out the shower and expect that I should be jumping him instantly. I'll admit that he's ALMOST back to the way he was when we were dating, but I am so turned off by him before that he could look like a model now and I wouldn't want him. I can't regain the desire I had for him before and thus I can't have sex with him. I still see the gross man that would pick his nose and rub it on his shirt and not brush his teeth for 3 weeks at a time. Our marriage is dead, isn't it?
PS - I still look great and get hit on daily (in case you're wondering if I've let myself go).
He never looked like a model... far from it! I said that even if he started looking like a model, I can't get the image of this slob off my mind. He thinks that brushing his teeth is something special he's doing for me that requires reward (sex) in return!