Cant help those who dont want to be helped?

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studentRN

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O.K. i have a freind who is bassiclly extremelly upset about himself. However when ever i try and help him, he just seems to push it away. He keeps constintlly letting those assholes thoughts bother him, and I tried to get him to talk to this one person i know, that is really helpful, but he just flipped out. How would i be able give him help without him just flipping out on me? Or I should just sit it out, because i cant help those who dont wish to be helped.
 
when my little cousin would sniff markers because of depression, and then cut herself, the only thing to do was just leave her alone. it sounds like the wrong thing, but the harder i tried, the more she seemed to do it. it ended up that once she got to college, she was fine.
 
I'll have to agree, pushing the envelope. generally only makes things worse, maybe he just needs some time alone with his thoughts, to process them, and decide whats best, i Know i Fucking hate it when people ask me whats wrong and want to "talk". Give it some time, he'll probly be ok.
 
Yeah, just keep an eye on him and make sure he doesn't do anything stupid. It will sort itself out, just give him time. If he starts talking about suicide or hurting himself, then you should really worry, and an intervention wouldn't be too bad in this case.
 
the mind sometimes needs to sort itself out on its own. leave him be, he'll eventually come round. if you know him well at all, you'll see if he's scarred so to speak, then prehaps proffessional help would be necessary. time will tell.
 
also..
people can have pretty fucked up ways of getting attention, if at home he gets attention (positive or negative) by being sulky and unresponsive then that has followed through to all his dealings with people..
might be nothing you can do.

if it's very recent behaivour then tell someone else, a school counsellor maybe, because he might be struggling with something (abuse, bullying, addiction) that you just don't know about.. it will seem shitty passing this on to a counsellor but if it prevents a suicide?
 
Just ignore him. I have a friend like that. He would always threaten suicide and I would just tell him if he is going to do it to do it already and quit being a bitch. It made him get out of that phase after a few times because he realized no one cared. Everyone was pissed at me, but I knew him better than anyone else and I knew if he was going to actually do it he would have ran away and did it. Attention whores.
 
Well I went threw the exact same thing.... It's like no one's aloud to be depressed anymore... I wanted to die so they stuck me in a mental hospital for a year to work out my issues... That fuckin' sucked and so did the food...
 
If you're trying to help someone who doesn't want to be helped, It's like pushing a donkey up a steep hill. They will try their hardest not to accept it.
A lot of people just want attention.
 
So bassiclly just stay out of it is the best option. Because helping could actually be hurting. however, i dont think its for attention, seeing as if he gets the attention he just kinda shoves it aside, either that or he is pretending to shove it aside just to get more. I dont know, after seeing you guys thoughts i have a feeling i should just try and help if it gets really serous, other than that, i have to let him work it out by himself, thanx to all that helped :thumbsup: .
 
i was only in one for 3 hours the room was so quite i screamed untill they let me out and they put me in the children area and i ran away........................
yet i didnt get to make it far :sad: so then my mom took me home
 
o i wouldent give him to much attention either its good just not to talk to him let him talk to you its a way to see if he wants attention or not cause if he doesnt he'll talk to you and if he doesnt he wants attention
 
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