Can you please tell me what you think?

[LizaR]

A year ago my 3 year boyfriend broke up with me. Since then I feel terribly alone and hopeless, I don't think I'm ever going to find anyone else that will love me the way he used to do it. But I blew the whole relationship away. We were always together, we had classes together, we ate, we went to the gym together, because we are in the same career. I didn't had any other friends at that time and I still haven't because I'm extremely shy. He was the only person that would want to be with me and I didn't appreciate that. I just couldn't stand the idea that he was better than me, I felt I was under his shadow all the time. So I started to retrieve my frustrations on him, I'm not sure how it started but I began to hit him and humiliate him in public.It was not always like that since we had great moments together also, he is and will always be the love of my life. I don't know why I did why I did and I regret it so much. I'm an attractive woman so even though men invite me to go out, is just for sex. I now realize how stupid I was to let the best thing I could ever had in my life go because of my pride and selfishness.I feel so alone, I know I don't deserve anyone to love me, the only thing I deserve is to be sad and alone. I'm conscious about that and in any moment I say that what's happening to me is unfair. It's totally what I deserve. But I refuse to stay and suffer the consequences of my own actions. I just want to put an end to everything

 

[TiffannieC]

Well if your boyfriend broke up with you, you should not run back to him. You can find friends easily, don't worry about it. You got your whole life ahead of you. Just because one guy broke up with you, it does not mean that no one is going to love you later. It takes time and you have to be patient. Ok being lonely isn't that bad, it gives you time to think about the important things in life.

 

[blondiemeg94]

First of all, don't be so down on yourself. It's not all your fault. It may seem that way but in every relationship there will be problems. Everyone fights. Even if they seem extremely happy.A lot of the time people take their anger or frustrations out on other people, usually the ones they care about most. It's a selfish and terrible thing to do but we all do it, unfortunately.When, you're down on yourself it makes your confidence drop so low that you don't even feel like you shouldn't be apart of the world anymore and at times you probably do feel like that,Many women in the world make the man or women that they love they're everything and they cut themselves off from the rest of the world and they make they're partner their world, pretty much. It's nothing to be ashamed of. But, it's not healthy for a person to do that. When you're in a relationship you have to make sure that you still know who you are. You still have to have girl friends that you still hang out with and sometimes you may think that if you do that then you're boyfriend will get made. But, he wants to spend times with his friend too. Believe me, a guy DOES NOT want to be around their girlfriend all the time. Yeah, it's stupid but it's a guy thing[:And you don't deserve to be sad and alone. Nobody does. You have to throw yourself out there. Call your old friends, start to make plans with them. Surrond yourself with people because if you feel alone then you are alone. The best way to make yourself feel better about yourself is to be happy. At first it might be a fake happy but at least your having fun. And maybe one of those guys that asks you out just wants to get to know you. You don't know if it's just for sex. Make your ex wish he would have never let you go. then if he does want you, you might take him back or you might have moved on. Take a chance. You never know what could happen[: