Can we really NOT judge people?

J

Jan

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Yeah it's just something that's in our innate nature to do that helps us keep "good" people around us and the bad people away. I think everyone knows someone who they are nothing like, however they are fun to hang out with every now and then and they get along for civil purposes (like the people you mentioned). But sometimes the judgment is necessary for reasons that you can't control... would you let a junkie rapist watch your 5 year old daughter? Would you let a bunch of gang members watch your car? Let some children handle a gun? We use judgment for survival.

mr dance moves - good points
 
I used to be the type of person who went out of my way to not judge people, but i'm beginning to wonder if judging weeds out the people who aren't on your level from those that are: A self-preservation tool.
I have tried to be super-nonjudgmental, hippie type, but I have found more times than not, that people ended up disappointing me in their character flaws so it has forced me to re-evaluate my thinking.
Insane-Example. I had befriended people you would consider hooligans because I am just that type of person. These people had no jobs (or minimum wage), didn't have cars, no college education, no real aspirations for bettering themselves. They were my bar comrades and I didn't judge their lives, but after more exposure and being around them more, I found that they were pulling me down to their level, getting me into drama, I couldn't talk to them about certain topics, etc etc.

I'm not saying that I'm on some superhigh level myself, or that economics has anything to do with it. It's more a character thing when I say "on my level."
Mr Dance-You're right. I tend to think about my daughter and husband more and try to surround myself with people who are on the up and up and who won't get me into drama.
 
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