Can someone help me out?

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I feel like I don't enjoy life like I used to. After I graduated college, I struggled a lot. I am employed now, but for a couple months I struggled to find work. Some people that I thought were my friends during college turned out not to be once I and all of them graduated.One example is I helped one person to graduate as well because she failed a class that she needed to graduate and she passed the class that I tutored her through. We talked on the phone and had great conversations and laughed and everything. After she graduated and got a job. I saw her again when I went out. When I told her that I was looking for a job, she basically ridiculed me because she thought since I was so smart, I would have gotten a job just as soon as she did. I was basically disgusted from that situation and her and I am not her friend anymore( I do stand up for myself by the way). I am positive about my job and will get promoted with higher salary so I am happy about that.My parents want me to go to grad school, but I study my butt off only to have low scores on the GMAT and LSAT. I will try to retake the LSAT though. Now I just have not cared much about dating lately because of many past relationships went sour. I try not to stay in the past, but I just don't want to go through the same things that I went through. I just don't like games that SOME women play and I don't want anyone to just put my worth in my job and salary and things that I have. I do love women and people in general, but now I feel more defensive because in many situations my kindness has been taken for granted. And I have encountered backbiting people even at my job.I used to be very social, but after rudeness, ridicule, and disrespect, I don't talk to many people as I used to. Can someone give me some words of encouragement to think about as I move forward? I would appreciate it.
 
wow...you are going through alot but you cannot let it get the best of you like that. To be honest, you have to realize that people are people. They will only USE you to get ahead and as soon as they have reached their goal some people will drop you. That's a lesson I learned long ago so nowadays I am not surprised by their behaviours anymore.Having study for an exam and still come up short is more common than you may think. Don't be so hard on yourself. Find out where you wnet wrong and take it from there. Don't jump into people/friendships. Get to know people. Let them prove themselves before you call them friend.I really hope you have a loving family that you could reach out to for support at this time. It's hard enough when friends fail but it is even harder when you don't have your family to fall back on. Tap into your faith. I don't know if you are a religious person but I am a christian and I find that praying and reading my bible helps. All the best. Be strong.
 
Mr. C, you sound like a well-spoken, sincere person. Often it is the people who are kind and giving of themselves who get hurt the most, because they make themselves more vulnerable to that sort of thing than a "backbiting" or jaded person. But it sounds like you may be turning into a jaded person as well. Don't let that happen. There are decent people out there, kind people who will appreciate you for who you are. Have you thought of joining any organizations or clubs you might be interested in? You could find like-minded people there. Or perhaps you may want to think about volunteering for a couple of hours every week. It may help you feel better about yourself, and would help to showcase the real you.As for schooling, it is not the be-all and end-all. What's important is your satisfaction with the work you do. It is your life, and life is too short to listen to others above yourself regarding what you should do with your life. Best of luck to you. I hope everything works out for you.:)
 
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