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portopit
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we are thinking about joining but im not sure what the life would be like for us... would we have to spent a lot of time apart? i havnt talked to a recruiter yet but just wanted some sugestion first.
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Greco
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Laura's right. If you want to be together join the Air Force. I spent 20 years in the AF and met my husband and got married we were together 16 years before we retired from the AF and out of that time only spent 6 months apart. I wouldn't count on going through basic and tech school together. You probably could if you get the same job. But don't do that. It would lessen your chances of being stationed together. Try to pick a job that they have everywhere.
If you join the Navy - I can't speak for the Army
Detailers will do their VERY best to place you in the same geographic area. But you will never be in the same command.
BUT, with 6-7 month deployments on sea duty every 1.5-2 years, you may not see much of each other. You will also be required to complete a family action plan, basically what you're going to do to care for your children if neither of you are around. In 4-5 years on a TYPICAL rotation, you'll both go to shore duty and again, the detailers will try to place you in the same area.
Be prepared to spend lots of time apart.
Detailers will do their VERY best to place you in the same geographic area. But you will never be in the same command.
BUT, with 6-7 month deployments on sea duty every 1.5-2 years, you may not see much of each other. You will also be required to complete a family action plan, basically what you're going to do to care for your children if neither of you are around. In 4-5 years on a TYPICAL rotation, you'll both go to shore duty and again, the detailers will try to place you in the same area.
Be prepared to spend lots of time apart.
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Ray M
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Honestly, not sure if a recruiter is the best person to talk to. Some of them are a little less than honest about realities. My father was in the army for his life career and always got upset about situations where a recruiter didn't give the full information.
I'd try to call some sort of offically army office and talk to someone to get the correct information. I've known couples that were both military, but I dont' think the army is bound to have you both in the same location. heck, with Iraq and Afghanistan going on right now, you could both end up in the zones, but in different spots. They definately wouldn't put you in the exact same squad or whatever. They wouldn't want any chance of a situation arising.
I'd try to call some sort of offically army office and talk to someone to get the correct information. I've known couples that were both military, but I dont' think the army is bound to have you both in the same location. heck, with Iraq and Afghanistan going on right now, you could both end up in the zones, but in different spots. They definately wouldn't put you in the exact same squad or whatever. They wouldn't want any chance of a situation arising.
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Laura B
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Sure...and I believe right now they have a program to where one of you will get $2000 after the other one signs up. The military does try to keep spouses together it's called "join spouse" and they try to keep you if not at the same place...within a close distance. It all depends on the jobs that you go into and which Post has openings for the jobs. There are TONS and TONS of dual military couples. You will spend time apart, that is a given...how much time will all depend on what Job you pick. To be honest, if you want to spend minimal time away from each other. I would recommend the Air Force, they are much more family oriented... I've lived both Army and Air Force life (living with Army made me join the AF). I've always been married in the Air Force with an Air Force spouse...it's been great and we've had minimal time away from each other and we've never been stationed at different places, always have been living together. If you want to talk more about it let me know. I'm not a recruiter, I've just lived the life.