I've been dating a girl for about 10 months now. She just graduated and I'm entering my senior year. We both really care about each other and she's made me so happy. Here's the interesting part I suppose: I'm jewish and she's palestinian. We didn't know this about each other until about a month after we started dating and both of us saw so much in each other as people that we embraced our differences. Her parents recently told her that her relationship with me was going to put a strain on her family because they only want her to date someone inside their culture. They've assured her it can never work with me.
I've met them, and they think I'm a nice guy, which is why they haven't forbid her from seeing me and or talking to me. My parents are fine with our relationship. She doesn't know what to do and doesn't want to hurt her parents, but she doesn't want to break up over this. I said we should keep going out and bide our time, and if we continue to last hopefully her parents will appreciate the fact that she's happy with me.
Am I being selfish for going out with her even though her parents don't like me? I've had a bunch of conversations with her about this and its clearly taking a toll on her. It makes me feel awful. We haven't done anything wrong. I really care about her and I want her to be happy...so I'm worried that I'm going to put a strain on her family relations. I've been pretty torn up over this. Thanks.
I've met them, and they think I'm a nice guy, which is why they haven't forbid her from seeing me and or talking to me. My parents are fine with our relationship. She doesn't know what to do and doesn't want to hurt her parents, but she doesn't want to break up over this. I said we should keep going out and bide our time, and if we continue to last hopefully her parents will appreciate the fact that she's happy with me.
Am I being selfish for going out with her even though her parents don't like me? I've had a bunch of conversations with her about this and its clearly taking a toll on her. It makes me feel awful. We haven't done anything wrong. I really care about her and I want her to be happy...so I'm worried that I'm going to put a strain on her family relations. I've been pretty torn up over this. Thanks.