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Amir Ali Tayyab
Guest
(some of the names of characters and places have been changed deliberately to protect the real people's interests)
This woman, Michelle had abortion and left Mark 8 months ago without telling him any "real" excuse. Now, after 8 months of Mark's suffering, she tells her excuse not to Mark, but to a joint friend. Mark's response is also attached. Since their breakup 8 months ago, she started having sex with multiple guys out there and admits that as well. Is this child's spanking good enough excuse to have sex with multiple people and destroy a genuine person's life? Pls. read her letter first and then Mark's response. Instead of making jokes of these people, could you pls. come up with an idea as to how to resolve it permanently?
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Michelle's Letter to a joint friend of Mark:
He needs to stop contacting me. What I can never forgive him for is the time he took my daughter. He said he was taking her out for candy, but he did not return for 4 hours. I was worried sick. He took his sim card out so that I could not contact him and then he claimed that it was just not working.
I was SO terrified. We had been having problems and he used my daughter to get back at me. When they returned they had not gone to get candy AT ALL. Not even to a gas station. She was soaked in her own urine and she had a large shoe-print welt on her back. She said that he stepped on her. She fell out of the car and he stepped on her. She said he took her for a walk and when she wasn't walking fast enough he spanked her.
She never lies.
That was MY CHILD. My little 3 year old child. That is what makes me sick at night, when I think about what he could have done to her. While I can understand that most of what he did to me was just out of his jealousy and worry that I had male friends, and had had several boyfriends before him, him hurting my little girl is unforgivable.
I will NEVER forgive myself for putting her in that position.
I could have easily had her taken away from me by the state. He also put his hands around her neck once, to make her sit still because she was hysterical crying. (She was extremely afraid of him after he started to change.) (she liked him at the beginning, when he was so kind and flattering and saying so many nice and wonderful things about us.)She was trying to get him to let go and ended up with red marks all over her neck, that lasted for a week.
So, Please, tell him that I will never talk to him again and that he MUST stop trying to contact me. He called 15 times today. Over and over and over.
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Mark's Letter to Michelle:
Michelle,
That is an emotionally charged up excuse to do the terrible things to me that you did. You know how much I loved your daughter and about spanking, you yourself asked me to start this to discipline her which was duly appreciated even by your mom. And I spank my own kids, everyone spanks their kids, it is very important for a child to listen and to be obedient. There was a huge positive and wonderful change in her. But unfortunately, your ex-husband's continous input of hatred inside her mind against me and you being together in our home in New York. And you know how much she loved her father. You have never been a good mother yourself before you met me and you know that very well. It was first time that she had a real father and mother looking after her completely. Yes, I felt a little bit left out but I never ever took the revenge from a little butterfly like herself. I have two daughters and a son and they love me a lot. I loved you and this wonderful, wise, lovely kid of yours. Probably you did not notice all those 1,000 things that I did for her and that little incident in that park where it was just an accident and you continue calling that in whatever "wild imagination" that can come in your mind. Your mom was so much scared, that I was myself surprised at all this hoopla about me and her having our own time together. It seems you guys never trusted me with your daughter then what was she doing in my home with everything that I had, time, money, love, toys, playing, etc???
I'd continue calling you over and over until the day I die. I have never done anything wrong to you and you can't just come up with "made-up" excuses to validate whatever wrongs you have done to me, to your daughter, to your ex-husband, to mom and above all to yourself. You definitely need to choose between acting like you did in front of the Judge or be yourself like you were first time on the phone with me about that shrink of yours. You are scared of all the wrongs that you did to all of us people, and to yourself, you are NOT scared to me at all. If you were, you'd never ever hit me, abuse me and still call me from the walmart that the door is locked and you need the keys.
Michelle, enough is enough. Just call me up, clear the shit that you have spread all around yourself and me
and go live your life like you wish to. Otherwise, I swear to God, to my kids, my loved ones and for the sake of justice, you'd have me follow you to the last corner of this earth and to the last breath of mine. How could you destroy me, my life, my love, come this close and fool me and go away free just like that? None of the courts on earth are capable to punish you the way that I plan to punish you. So, just cut the crap and call me up. You know my heart very well, it is not made of iron like yourself. It has flesh and blood in it.
Mark
This woman, Michelle had abortion and left Mark 8 months ago without telling him any "real" excuse. Now, after 8 months of Mark's suffering, she tells her excuse not to Mark, but to a joint friend. Mark's response is also attached. Since their breakup 8 months ago, she started having sex with multiple guys out there and admits that as well. Is this child's spanking good enough excuse to have sex with multiple people and destroy a genuine person's life? Pls. read her letter first and then Mark's response. Instead of making jokes of these people, could you pls. come up with an idea as to how to resolve it permanently?
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Michelle's Letter to a joint friend of Mark:
He needs to stop contacting me. What I can never forgive him for is the time he took my daughter. He said he was taking her out for candy, but he did not return for 4 hours. I was worried sick. He took his sim card out so that I could not contact him and then he claimed that it was just not working.
I was SO terrified. We had been having problems and he used my daughter to get back at me. When they returned they had not gone to get candy AT ALL. Not even to a gas station. She was soaked in her own urine and she had a large shoe-print welt on her back. She said that he stepped on her. She fell out of the car and he stepped on her. She said he took her for a walk and when she wasn't walking fast enough he spanked her.
She never lies.
That was MY CHILD. My little 3 year old child. That is what makes me sick at night, when I think about what he could have done to her. While I can understand that most of what he did to me was just out of his jealousy and worry that I had male friends, and had had several boyfriends before him, him hurting my little girl is unforgivable.
I will NEVER forgive myself for putting her in that position.
I could have easily had her taken away from me by the state. He also put his hands around her neck once, to make her sit still because she was hysterical crying. (She was extremely afraid of him after he started to change.) (she liked him at the beginning, when he was so kind and flattering and saying so many nice and wonderful things about us.)She was trying to get him to let go and ended up with red marks all over her neck, that lasted for a week.
So, Please, tell him that I will never talk to him again and that he MUST stop trying to contact me. He called 15 times today. Over and over and over.
_________________________________________
Mark's Letter to Michelle:
Michelle,
That is an emotionally charged up excuse to do the terrible things to me that you did. You know how much I loved your daughter and about spanking, you yourself asked me to start this to discipline her which was duly appreciated even by your mom. And I spank my own kids, everyone spanks their kids, it is very important for a child to listen and to be obedient. There was a huge positive and wonderful change in her. But unfortunately, your ex-husband's continous input of hatred inside her mind against me and you being together in our home in New York. And you know how much she loved her father. You have never been a good mother yourself before you met me and you know that very well. It was first time that she had a real father and mother looking after her completely. Yes, I felt a little bit left out but I never ever took the revenge from a little butterfly like herself. I have two daughters and a son and they love me a lot. I loved you and this wonderful, wise, lovely kid of yours. Probably you did not notice all those 1,000 things that I did for her and that little incident in that park where it was just an accident and you continue calling that in whatever "wild imagination" that can come in your mind. Your mom was so much scared, that I was myself surprised at all this hoopla about me and her having our own time together. It seems you guys never trusted me with your daughter then what was she doing in my home with everything that I had, time, money, love, toys, playing, etc???
I'd continue calling you over and over until the day I die. I have never done anything wrong to you and you can't just come up with "made-up" excuses to validate whatever wrongs you have done to me, to your daughter, to your ex-husband, to mom and above all to yourself. You definitely need to choose between acting like you did in front of the Judge or be yourself like you were first time on the phone with me about that shrink of yours. You are scared of all the wrongs that you did to all of us people, and to yourself, you are NOT scared to me at all. If you were, you'd never ever hit me, abuse me and still call me from the walmart that the door is locked and you need the keys.
Michelle, enough is enough. Just call me up, clear the shit that you have spread all around yourself and me
and go live your life like you wish to. Otherwise, I swear to God, to my kids, my loved ones and for the sake of justice, you'd have me follow you to the last corner of this earth and to the last breath of mine. How could you destroy me, my life, my love, come this close and fool me and go away free just like that? None of the courts on earth are capable to punish you the way that I plan to punish you. So, just cut the crap and call me up. You know my heart very well, it is not made of iron like yourself. It has flesh and blood in it.
Mark