Calling all married men...my husband is plain lazy. I have discussed this with him.?

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He stated that he works hard during the day (at work) and that he is tired when he comes home and that he will not, now or ever, be any less-lazy than he is right now. Sounds typical, but he was not this way until we tied the knot. I am overwhelmed by working full-time myself, doing all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. When I complain, his response is "don't do it - I don't give a crap". Please don't make fun of me, he does have good qualities too, but I am wearing out. Advice?
 
Time to trade roles!!! Have him do the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. and we'll see how tired he is then. I'll tell you right now he'll change because it's a hell of a lot harder then they think it is. Or just stop all together, believe me he'll notice and care once he has no clean shirts to wear to work.
 
Now, in this instance, there should be a blance because you work a full-time job as well....Just stop cleaning and cooking for him a few weeks and he will get the picture.....Solution number two:...Hire a Maid to do the work......
 
Just do things for yourself for a while and see what happens. Let him fend for himself for a while. If you do the laundry, just do your clothes. And if you make a meal, just make enough for yourself. He'll get the idea pretty quick. He'll have to get up and feed himself. And he'll have to wash his own clothes unless he wants to walk around looking dirty. Good luck.
 
Does he mean to imply that you do not work any the less harder when you are home? If he wants to act immature then treat him accordingly. You mentioned that he was not this way before you got married, obviously he was trying to impress you. Well I have news for him! Just because he put a ring on your finger does not mean he has to stop trying to impress you! If anything, he has to try all the harder to do just that. I love my wife, we both work, and I realize that I am no great prize but while she doe cook occasionally I do all the laundry, vacuum, yard work,take care of the cars and change the sheets clean the bathrooms wash the dog and so on. She started getting me on how some of her clothes were to be washed and not dried. I admit a couple of times I forgot, and dried them. Now, I just wash my stuff and let her handle her own. I don't make a big production of it but I just take care of my little corner of the world. Just like the family plan on our phone, she and her son are just addicted to all the apps and latest phones that come out. I just use mine to make and receive calls. I have a computer with internet access at home and work as do they so I don't ned to get it or have it or use it on the phone. Now that our phone bill is equal to 1/2 a mrtgae payment or 2 car paymenst, I, who also pay the bills, just pay what I owe $30.00 and what they owe before all the downloads and internet usage and overage on minutes. I have begged and preached and pleaded with them on their useage. To no avail. so now I pay just what I said above and take care of all the other bills. If they shut the phones off, it's not my problem she works an extra job and he works without contributing a dime let them see and learn that there are other people to consider in the household and should not have to suffer because they can't control themselves. the same holds true for your husband, when his clothes start stinking and are wrinkled and he can only find what he needs on the floor where he left them he'll be mad but that's nothing compared to how he'll feel when you start either serving him dinner on dirty dishes and silverware or paper and plastic, off of dirty pots and pans, and just wait until the trash overflows and stinks or the yard is so overgrown you get a citation fonot getting it cut. Just take care of your laundry, your plate and cutlery your drinking glass then invite some of his family and friends over for an evening and don't lift a finger. Imagine his pride when all they see is his stench all over the place. When you invite them, don't tell him and then leave on an errand just before they get there.
 
I used to be that way it was almost impossible for me to do anything and I saw how upsetting it was to my wife so I got off my a** and did something. She could not be happier. Like the others said stop doing it and see how he will survive. He will just get tired of looking at everything. Trust me.
 
He's right. Don't do it. Spend a month or two only doing YOUR stuff. See if that gets through to him when he's re-wearing his dirty underwear or wading through dirty dishes so he can eat...
 
Do your own laundry, cook meals just for you, do your own dishes and see how long it takes him to run out of clothes, food or dishes. Then see what he does or says. When he approaches you and complains that he hasn't any clean underwear, tell him you were too tired to wash his.
Also, do not pick up his dirty clothes, move his dirty dishes, or anything else.
I'll bet he'll change his tune quick. If not then move out and tell him to hire a maid and cook. Because that is not your job.
I believe in sharing, especially if my wife is working also. I love to cook anyway and I am a better cook than she is. But I also clean my kitchen messes, actually I am a fanatic about a clean kitchen.
You need to get him trained your way. Or walk out the door.
 
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