Bullied in school

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nhlstar95

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This is probably not the right board or even allowed, I am not sure. But my son is 14. Big kid, just like dad, not fat, but big.... but timid and was taught not to fight. Fighting is no good. He has been bullied since Middle school, now a freshmen in high school. Kids will throw his books, steal his books and we have to pay for a new one. $ 100.00 calculator got stolen, reported, found, stolen again. Failing so, we had to buy him another $ 100.00 calculator. He tells the principal and they say; Well, we will see if we can find it. Which we are in the process of dealing with the Well respected school..........Today some kid jabbed him in the ribs until he held his hand out, so the kid could write on it.... We are now telling him to Kick any kid that is bothering him. Dad is going to get the punching bag put up and teach him some things.... Are we doing the right thing ??? If he continues to take the bs from these kids, he will be picked on throughout his High School years...... Any suggestions would be appreciated..... :nono:
 
Kids are like animals...whenever one is timid they will pick on it till it dies...animals take the weak and usless out. Altho we teach our kids not to resort to violence, which is hard to do in light of kids listening to gangsta rap, when a kid backs down or shows the slightest shyness, they are in for it...my both sons will walk away first, but if persisted, they will defend themselves and i expect it. When both of my sons started high school, i told both the principal and the guidence counciler that i will never put up with bullies, not for a minute and that i told my sons to defend with all they had. They were both very popular so it never happened.
 
My favorite subject. I hate bullies and everyone who allows their child to be a bully and the school officials who don't want to deal with it.

I agree you should always walk away from a fight but never back down if you are being picked on. I would take Midnightangels advice and go to the school principal and tell them that you are not putting up with it anymore and that you have instructed your son to protect himself. The principal is to call you immediatly if there is a confrontation.

I think being a bully is a serious matter for a parent. If my daughter had done that in school I would be so ashamed! I'm not one to come to the rescue of my child when it's obvious she was doing something wrong. And she knows I wouldn't either. It's so sad these days, when a parent covers for a child who is obviously in the wrong.

I hope all works out well for you son. I remember one incident in my high school where a boy finally defended himeself. It shocked his attackers. It was truly funny to see.
 
It is a sore subject with me..i was picked on unmercifully as i wore glasses from age 4 and in the 50s and 60s it was not fashionable...i was skinny and what is called beaver teeth...even at a very young age i did not put up with it, even tho i was a female. Then when i got into 7th grade it got worse and worse...i was the best singer and dancer in the entire school but it made no diff at all...gym was pure hell as in the lockers i was called all kinds of brutal names, even tho i was the best athlete in my class, mattered not...and then it happened...after school some girls followed me and they were pulling my hair and stepping on the back of my shoes and poking me in the back...i stopped dead, threw my books down and kicked the crap out of 2 of them, one ran but i caught her and did her in...all 3 had to go to the hosp...guess who got in very serious trouble? My parents beat me up and i got suspended from school altho it was not on school property...i quit school...it destroyed me...it destroyed my dreams...i cry even now...but one thing did make me feel soooooooo good...when i reached my 20s and had a baby at age 21, i blossomed, i really got hot looking, so much so that the kids that picked on me didn't recognize me. Now i am 58 and look 40 while the girls that picked on me look 80!!!!!!!!!!
 
Thank you for your responses. We will see what happens today. He told me he is afraid of getting in a fight. Probably would cry if hit had enough and also said; I knew I would get in trouble with you and dad if I fought in school. I said; Honey, I certainly don't want you to fight in school, but also dont want kids to pick on you. They have absolutely no right to put their hands on you. So, if you get suspended, I'll deal with it. If you get a broken nose, or a black and blue eye, it will heal. It is time to step up and the schools have a no tolorence policy, but the school is so big and there is always so much crap going on, they cannot control it all. He says; there are fights everyday...Hopefully, if he stands up for himself, this will end the bullying he has been putting up with. I personally would like to go to school and fight the kids myself....ha ha ha... :) I couldn't do that, but it makes me mad....We will see what happens..... :confused:
 
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