Vanessa says hi!
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so heres the thing. ive been living with my now husband and brother in law for alittle over a year....my husband and i have been together for more than three years going on four and we have this beautiful 9 month old baby..so to make things short ive really feel like i have tolerate most of the crap his brother does.. im not a *itch or anything. i think im pretty easy going and nice. i rather let things happen to me then me say something about it kinda person...but i dont let people walk all over me. he has been living with us for more than a year like i said. and heres a list to explain what are my problems.
1. He doesnt clean up after himself all the time time. sometimes he leaves his dirty dishes on the table and always leaves clothes laying around. I can count on one hand how many times hes helped washed dishes. i can count on another hand how many times he has cleaned around the house.
2. everytime he gets his check he must but a 24 pack of coronas!....theres always alcohol in the frigde. ARGH> i dont have a problem with him drinking but it influences my husband drinking.im not trying to sound like the bitchy nagging wife but theres boundaries! alcohol is ok once in a while not everyday!
3. he recently bought an xbox 360 and everyweekend im not exxaggerating they must play atleast 2 hours of fifa 10. i mean im okay with my hubby spending time with his brother. aslong as he is keeping his priorities in check and pays enough attention to us.
4. we can't have privacy. every night when im trying to get some i always have to stay quiet and not make sounds or noises therefore i can;t really enjoy it..i do this to respect the apartment,. i wouldnt like it if he brought a girl over and we could hear everything they were doing. thats another thing i want him to respect our home. and drinking everyday is not a sign of showing it. when our daugther is 3 or 4 i would not tolerate it happening so why should i now?
5.i feel like my hubby is stuck in the middle which is why i told him that his brother needed to leave, when we have fights over different things i can't really express myself cuz i know his brother is there listening and he SHOULD NOT be. i got with him to be with him. not to be having people talk shit about our relationship. i feel like his brother would go tell my mother in law who i cannot stand as well that we are having problems. i dont want him here anymore for various reasons. but mostly becuase i need and deserve my privacy.
this is really affecting and taking a toll in our relationship. im a stay at home mom and i no longer cook or clean in the kitchen, since the always leave their dishes and there mess i made i tclear to my husband I AM NOT YOUR GUYES MOTHER. if you work 12 hours a day idc anymore. im tired of cleaning and cooking just to do it over again the next day. i feel like im being taken for granted. im more than willin to be there for my huisband but certainly not for his brother's crap. they can cook and pick up after themselves.
im not jeolous of his brother. i want them to have a good relationship and not to fight over this. im not trying to take my husband away from his brother just like i wanna hang out with my sister and go shopping. i also dont have anything personal with his brother. i simply don't like living with him bc we are too different to get along and im NOT his mother. how good does he have it? food ready when he gets home and no cleaning for him??
MY A*S.....he needs to leave and go back with his momma. maybe she will tolerate him drinking everyday and cooking for him and clenaing as well
What do you think??
1. He doesnt clean up after himself all the time time. sometimes he leaves his dirty dishes on the table and always leaves clothes laying around. I can count on one hand how many times hes helped washed dishes. i can count on another hand how many times he has cleaned around the house.
2. everytime he gets his check he must but a 24 pack of coronas!....theres always alcohol in the frigde. ARGH> i dont have a problem with him drinking but it influences my husband drinking.im not trying to sound like the bitchy nagging wife but theres boundaries! alcohol is ok once in a while not everyday!
3. he recently bought an xbox 360 and everyweekend im not exxaggerating they must play atleast 2 hours of fifa 10. i mean im okay with my hubby spending time with his brother. aslong as he is keeping his priorities in check and pays enough attention to us.
4. we can't have privacy. every night when im trying to get some i always have to stay quiet and not make sounds or noises therefore i can;t really enjoy it..i do this to respect the apartment,. i wouldnt like it if he brought a girl over and we could hear everything they were doing. thats another thing i want him to respect our home. and drinking everyday is not a sign of showing it. when our daugther is 3 or 4 i would not tolerate it happening so why should i now?
5.i feel like my hubby is stuck in the middle which is why i told him that his brother needed to leave, when we have fights over different things i can't really express myself cuz i know his brother is there listening and he SHOULD NOT be. i got with him to be with him. not to be having people talk shit about our relationship. i feel like his brother would go tell my mother in law who i cannot stand as well that we are having problems. i dont want him here anymore for various reasons. but mostly becuase i need and deserve my privacy.
this is really affecting and taking a toll in our relationship. im a stay at home mom and i no longer cook or clean in the kitchen, since the always leave their dishes and there mess i made i tclear to my husband I AM NOT YOUR GUYES MOTHER. if you work 12 hours a day idc anymore. im tired of cleaning and cooking just to do it over again the next day. i feel like im being taken for granted. im more than willin to be there for my huisband but certainly not for his brother's crap. they can cook and pick up after themselves.
im not jeolous of his brother. i want them to have a good relationship and not to fight over this. im not trying to take my husband away from his brother just like i wanna hang out with my sister and go shopping. i also dont have anything personal with his brother. i simply don't like living with him bc we are too different to get along and im NOT his mother. how good does he have it? food ready when he gets home and no cleaning for him??
MY A*S.....he needs to leave and go back with his momma. maybe she will tolerate him drinking everyday and cooking for him and clenaing as well
What do you think??