When you spend an entire life socially isolated with love and desire that offers you dizzying heights and suicidal lows, you begin to understand the life of many anonymous gay men. When the very best you have to offer another human being must be kept secret to preserve your dignity and at times your life, the psychological pressure can be overwhelming. That's why I believe this film will be a deeply emotional experience for gay men in particular. I've read a number of comments on various forums about the film and they seem to be very positive or very negative with almost nothing in between. The hatred in the negative remarks underscores the deep ignorance that a few self described straight men have about gay men. The courage that it takes to live as a gay man in the Midwest as Ennis and Jack did completely escapes those who negatively speak about the film. They are offended by Ang Lee's portrayal of "masculine" gay men as if this is an impossibility. The deep irony is that many of these hateful comments come from men that could never handle the psychological pressure. I'm not saying that gay men are more able than straight men; not at all. In fact enough suicides happen every year among gay men for this very reason. My hope is that Brokeback will be seen by many men, in particular, and that they will be educated by this film to have greater empathy toward anyone that doesn't meet their standarRAB for respect when it comes to sexual preference. This movie is an important film because it generates discussion and thought in an area once forbidden to even speak about. The needless pain and misery brought to so many lives was made brutally stark in this tale of love, deceit and sorrow. It's unfortunate that we are still a deeply insecure and fearful culture when it comes to same sex relationships. Life is short and whenever the opportunity for joy between yourself and another exists, you should take it with deep gratitude because it may never come again. I was deeply moved by this film and quite depressed as it mirrored my own life as a Forest Service Range Technician who once worked the rangelanRAB of western Wyoming. I spent many days and nights in the wilderness with my coworker. After many months a deep frienRABhip developed between us that went beyond simple frienRABhip. I will cherish it for the rest of my days. I regret that we simply drifted apart after a short 2 years partly out of guilt and fear but more out of self preservation. A couple years later, I looked him up and had a painful short visit with him, his wife and daughter. I left his house with a lump in my throat and after many miles of driving I finally pulled off the road out in the middle of nowhere and lost it because I knew he wasn't happy, but I also knew he couldn't stand the pressure. That was almost 30 years ago now. The point is we were both expert outdoorsmen, firefighters; we both rode horses and dealt with livestock on a regular basis. We never would have fit into the big city gay culture. All of that had absolutely nothing to do with the simple love that existed between us. We existed, we were real and we were some of the best, well liked workers on staff. Don't let anybody tell you, like what I saw in one post, that Brokeback could never happen because cowboys can't be gay. I'm here to tell you, that's a bunch of crap. Anything is possible between human beings and it can transcend all characterizations. Brokeback Mountain was the first film on this subject that I could really relate to. Silly sitcoms, porn movies, or gay culture don't even come close to realistically defining the challenging life and emotion portrayed by Heath and Jake in this outstanding and unforgettable film that I never thought I'd live to see. Mr. Lee: you hit the bull's eye! Many thanks to you, the actors and the producers. My only regret in seeing the film, is that it felt like a dagger had been run through my heart.