...in the long run? My ex boyfriend left me two months ago. He says it is because I was to jealous and he probably felt like I did not trust him. I did trust him. He was just triggering my jealousy by talking about he's ex girlfriend's a fair bit (even repeating stories I have already heard about them) and bragging about getting attention from other girl's where he works.
I over reacted a handful of times, giving him the cold shoulder, full on accusing him with like 'are you going to leave me for her?' Make sarcastic negative comments back. Every now and then which really hurt him and pissed him off. Well it hurt me that he was still thinking about he's ex's, wondering what was going on at work with those girl's who were giving him attention as well.
We were both friend's of a certain ex of he's as well. Every time he got a message off them. He would always make a big deal about it and point it out to me. That also annoyed me.
I was not jealous all the time. Some of the time. I would laugh it off and we would joke about it as well.
My ex knew I did not like when he went on about this. Yet. He still kept on going on about it.
The last straw was when I accidentally saw a email of he's. Couldn't help but have a look. My ex was talking about a girl on there he met about a year or so ago with he's best mate. I saw that he was going on about how hot she was, that he could have had her and if she was asking about him. My ex's mate also put up a picture he had up of them two in the email as well. Reminding my ex about the night they met.
That night he got home. I went all cold and weird on him again. He was like what was wrong? Then I just said I had a bad day. Asked him if he would ever leave me. He said no. He was like WTF?
After thinking about it. I realise that I was acting like a idiot over the whole thing. That the email was probably nothing but guy talk about a hot attractive girl. I felt bad about seeing the email and ended up telling him about it and what I saw.
My ex completely flips out and hits the roof. Telling me that he is not happy about what I did and that we are over.
I tried to say that I was sorry and explaining why I acted the way I did. My ex would not hear it. We were living together at the time. He went upstairs. Packed he's clothes and left.
We have now been broken up for two months. I have been a complete emotional mess. Emailing and texting constantly trying to explain why I got the way I did. Wanting us to sit down and talk about things and work them out. Compromise and make things better. My ex did not want to but. He just decided to give up on me.
I got a bit nasty in some of them because he would not see where I was coming from and want to work things out.
Even messaged he's best mate. Trying to get some more answers. He's mate was pretty cool with it luckily. He wanted us to sort our shit out. Saying he thought I was a cool chick and that my ex was being irrational about the situation. That we should just sit down and talk things out.
This pissed off my ex even more. He's mate emailed me saying he is not even allowed to say my name in front of my ex now because he gets to upset. My ex even asked he's mate to block me on Facebook. He's mate says he won't but because he knows I am not that bad.
Besides the jealousy thing. I treated my ex very well. I supported him. Never pushed or nagged him to do things. Made the effort to get to know he's friends and let him hang out with them as well. I was soo good to him regardless and is not the least bit grateful. I was even helping him out financially.
I just don't see why my getting jealous a handful of times would over write all the good I did for him.
Now. He just wants nothing to do with me. Even threatened me with a AVO if I continued. I have stopped but. Have not contacted him or he's mate in two weeks and want to stick to that. I bet he is already hanging out with other girl's most likely, as he says that he is trying to move on in the emails.
I just want to get opinions on the situation. If I ever have a hope of him realising how good I was to him or of him ever contacting me again?
I over reacted a handful of times, giving him the cold shoulder, full on accusing him with like 'are you going to leave me for her?' Make sarcastic negative comments back. Every now and then which really hurt him and pissed him off. Well it hurt me that he was still thinking about he's ex's, wondering what was going on at work with those girl's who were giving him attention as well.
We were both friend's of a certain ex of he's as well. Every time he got a message off them. He would always make a big deal about it and point it out to me. That also annoyed me.
I was not jealous all the time. Some of the time. I would laugh it off and we would joke about it as well.
My ex knew I did not like when he went on about this. Yet. He still kept on going on about it.
The last straw was when I accidentally saw a email of he's. Couldn't help but have a look. My ex was talking about a girl on there he met about a year or so ago with he's best mate. I saw that he was going on about how hot she was, that he could have had her and if she was asking about him. My ex's mate also put up a picture he had up of them two in the email as well. Reminding my ex about the night they met.
That night he got home. I went all cold and weird on him again. He was like what was wrong? Then I just said I had a bad day. Asked him if he would ever leave me. He said no. He was like WTF?
After thinking about it. I realise that I was acting like a idiot over the whole thing. That the email was probably nothing but guy talk about a hot attractive girl. I felt bad about seeing the email and ended up telling him about it and what I saw.
My ex completely flips out and hits the roof. Telling me that he is not happy about what I did and that we are over.
I tried to say that I was sorry and explaining why I acted the way I did. My ex would not hear it. We were living together at the time. He went upstairs. Packed he's clothes and left.
We have now been broken up for two months. I have been a complete emotional mess. Emailing and texting constantly trying to explain why I got the way I did. Wanting us to sit down and talk about things and work them out. Compromise and make things better. My ex did not want to but. He just decided to give up on me.
I got a bit nasty in some of them because he would not see where I was coming from and want to work things out.
Even messaged he's best mate. Trying to get some more answers. He's mate was pretty cool with it luckily. He wanted us to sort our shit out. Saying he thought I was a cool chick and that my ex was being irrational about the situation. That we should just sit down and talk things out.
This pissed off my ex even more. He's mate emailed me saying he is not even allowed to say my name in front of my ex now because he gets to upset. My ex even asked he's mate to block me on Facebook. He's mate says he won't but because he knows I am not that bad.
Besides the jealousy thing. I treated my ex very well. I supported him. Never pushed or nagged him to do things. Made the effort to get to know he's friends and let him hang out with them as well. I was soo good to him regardless and is not the least bit grateful. I was even helping him out financially.
I just don't see why my getting jealous a handful of times would over write all the good I did for him.
Now. He just wants nothing to do with me. Even threatened me with a AVO if I continued. I have stopped but. Have not contacted him or he's mate in two weeks and want to stick to that. I bet he is already hanging out with other girl's most likely, as he says that he is trying to move on in the emails.
I just want to get opinions on the situation. If I ever have a hope of him realising how good I was to him or of him ever contacting me again?