cytokine storm
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"rational and smart"? I broke things off cold turkey with my bf of four years after he flew to Thailand on a vacation with another girl. They shared a bed during the entire trip because he wanted to "save hotel money". I didn't believe it and couldn't forgive him because I know he had packed an air mattress with him on the trip, which he chose not to use because he said "it wasn't comfortable enough compared to the hotel bed". What was more, the hotel they stayed at in Thailand only costed $5 per night (they were there for two weeks, so that comes to $60, which kind of tells me that my feelings don't even worth $60 to him when he has already spent over $600 of his own money to fly out there just to meet up with her). She was only four hours away from Thailand, so she didn't have to fly half way around the world to meet him, but I have a feeling he was the one who suggested for them to get together, even though he initially blamed the whole thing on her, telling me privately that she was the one who invited him and pressured him to go on the trip. However, now that we broke up, he has been playing double sides, recently I found out from a mutual friend that he was telling her that he feels it's not her responsibility, and that I am the one who is being dramatic, insecure, and not trusting him.
Even though we broke up last week, It took him no time at all to "get over not going out with me" (he told me so himself), but he also said hel can't get over not having me as a friend, claiming it "makes no sense to do that". He says he still see me as his "best friend", and he feels like by cutting off with him cold turkey, "his best friend has disappeared". He is accusing me of being immature, and said that I should not "let my emotions defeat my reasons", because continuing being friends with him is the "rational and smart" thing to do. Almost in the same breath, he then proposed that we become business partners because he has had a profitable business idea for a while now and he could use my skills to make it a reality. Should I be "rational and smart" and continue my relationship with him as a friend like he suggested?
He also doesn't think very highly of women, telling me that "girls always think with their emotions, they are not logical or rational creatures". He told me "I thought you were smarter than most girls and capable of rational thoughts, looks like I am wrong".
Even though we broke up last week, It took him no time at all to "get over not going out with me" (he told me so himself), but he also said hel can't get over not having me as a friend, claiming it "makes no sense to do that". He says he still see me as his "best friend", and he feels like by cutting off with him cold turkey, "his best friend has disappeared". He is accusing me of being immature, and said that I should not "let my emotions defeat my reasons", because continuing being friends with him is the "rational and smart" thing to do. Almost in the same breath, he then proposed that we become business partners because he has had a profitable business idea for a while now and he could use my skills to make it a reality. Should I be "rational and smart" and continue my relationship with him as a friend like he suggested?
He also doesn't think very highly of women, telling me that "girls always think with their emotions, they are not logical or rational creatures". He told me "I thought you were smarter than most girls and capable of rational thoughts, looks like I am wrong".