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diana
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First off, I'm 28, my bf is 30; we've lived together for almost a year, have dated for two. He works at a high demand job during the week and barely says "hi" to me before falling asleep. The thing is, though, he wakes up in the middle of the night to play WoW and hence is tired the next day at work. This kind of goes in a cycle for the rest of the week. I am a discouraged worker/freelance illustrator and graphic designer, so I have way more free time than he does. I understand his need to unwind and relax, but the thing is, he's joined a guild and so I'm not supposed to talk to him or watch TV in our 1br apt. because he "needs to concentrate" on Tue, Wed, and Sun night. Our place is small and sound is a problem. Because I realise his need for this, I acquiesed and do quiet things when he's playing those three nights, like read or surf the internet. The thing is, this is seeping into the other days as well. I'm getting a little tired of walking on eggshells in my own home because of my boyfriend's gaming.
Today is Sat and he's been sitting in his underwear wrapped in a comforter, playing WoW all day - literally, ALL DAY from waking until night. He hasn't bathed and our whole place smells like B.O. If I open windows he complains of the cold.
Also Saturday is usually our date night, and he said he wanted to go to the movies when I asked about three hours ago, but the time has just ticked by, and he's still unbathed and playing WoW. When I asked him to please wash his armpits because of the smell he became furious. He's not particularly that good with hygiene to begin with, but with these new habits it's getting downright awful. I find myself holding my breath when he moves or walks by because the smell is so strong.
I don't know what to do. Before this he was really nice, and we had standing dates every Saturday with dinner & a movie. Now he ignores me and any personal hygiene so he can play WoW online. Because we were "going out" I put on a dress and makeup in anticipation a night out, and didn't eat anything because we were supposed to go to dinner - he kept saying "I'm almost done, I'll be done in a minute" for several hours - just to end up hungry and at home, doing nothing on a Sat. night. It wouldn't have been so bad if he said that he didn't want to go out, but he did string me along saying that we were going out and he was "almost done." This has really become a problem. In his younger unemployed years he was obsessed with WoW and was able to play it all day. He stopped playing when he began to work, so it's only recently (about a month) that he's been back in the WoW community. He didn't play it when we started dating or moved in with each other, so I didn't know it could get like this. Moving out is not an option. What should I do? I'm an attractive young woman, I don't feel like it should be this hard to get my bf to take me out on a date instead of playing WoW all day. What the heck should I do?
More info: he uses my 24" iMac to play, so I can't really work when he does this
Today is Sat and he's been sitting in his underwear wrapped in a comforter, playing WoW all day - literally, ALL DAY from waking until night. He hasn't bathed and our whole place smells like B.O. If I open windows he complains of the cold.
Also Saturday is usually our date night, and he said he wanted to go to the movies when I asked about three hours ago, but the time has just ticked by, and he's still unbathed and playing WoW. When I asked him to please wash his armpits because of the smell he became furious. He's not particularly that good with hygiene to begin with, but with these new habits it's getting downright awful. I find myself holding my breath when he moves or walks by because the smell is so strong.
I don't know what to do. Before this he was really nice, and we had standing dates every Saturday with dinner & a movie. Now he ignores me and any personal hygiene so he can play WoW online. Because we were "going out" I put on a dress and makeup in anticipation a night out, and didn't eat anything because we were supposed to go to dinner - he kept saying "I'm almost done, I'll be done in a minute" for several hours - just to end up hungry and at home, doing nothing on a Sat. night. It wouldn't have been so bad if he said that he didn't want to go out, but he did string me along saying that we were going out and he was "almost done." This has really become a problem. In his younger unemployed years he was obsessed with WoW and was able to play it all day. He stopped playing when he began to work, so it's only recently (about a month) that he's been back in the WoW community. He didn't play it when we started dating or moved in with each other, so I didn't know it could get like this. Moving out is not an option. What should I do? I'm an attractive young woman, I don't feel like it should be this hard to get my bf to take me out on a date instead of playing WoW all day. What the heck should I do?
More info: he uses my 24" iMac to play, so I can't really work when he does this