Okay so my boyfriend and I just reached our 3 month mark a week ago, today and almost every night I've had to deal with the same ol' crud.
So... He's an artist, he loves to draw, and he's great at it! I tell him this all the time. But... He always complains and says his work isn't good enough and he won't be happy until it's the best compared to like everyone else's. I tell him all the time that happiness comes from within yourself and you have to find it (I have recently gone Buddhist). But all he says is "that's easier said than done" I said "I've done it" and he said "that's you."
I try to comfort him and I have talked to him about talking to my cousin who is an active artist (my boyfriend is still a teenager like myself so he doesn't go around selling any of his art yet.) about getting his name out.
The other night he was complaining, once more, about his art. I told him I'm trying to help and he said " you claim you have this "cousin" who can get my name out there, you've been saying this for a while, but you haven't done anything yet." and I said " I haven't seen him recently" and he replied "CALL HIM does nobody have a number and a phone!" and he went on just exploding and I was almost in tears.
I know his art means so much to him and I try my hardest to comfort him and listen to him, but nothing seems to help. He said he wouldn't talk about his art unless it is positive (and I have gotten a hold of my cousin, I just need to discuss some stuff with him and my boyfriend is getting his portfolio together.) but today he went and looked at my cousins art online and got all upset because it was "better" than his. And went on complaining again and I told him "you are the male equivalent to <insert name here> (name protected, this was the name of a way good artist in my school)' and he freaked out and was like "what is that supposed to mean?" and he was like "so you're saying my art is equal to someone else's?"
and when I said "I'm going to spend time with my family, I love you, goodnight"(after all it is Christmas Eve) he didn't say I love you back and I had to use sarcasm to get him to say it...
I don't know what to do. He's being so angry and depressed and has this Self Loathing streak about him and he keeps saying I'm the only one he can go to for help, but whenever I offer it he makes me feel like I'm not trying... It's tearing me apart and taking up valuable time from me.
I don't know what to do or say.... Please help me!
So... He's an artist, he loves to draw, and he's great at it! I tell him this all the time. But... He always complains and says his work isn't good enough and he won't be happy until it's the best compared to like everyone else's. I tell him all the time that happiness comes from within yourself and you have to find it (I have recently gone Buddhist). But all he says is "that's easier said than done" I said "I've done it" and he said "that's you."
I try to comfort him and I have talked to him about talking to my cousin who is an active artist (my boyfriend is still a teenager like myself so he doesn't go around selling any of his art yet.) about getting his name out.
The other night he was complaining, once more, about his art. I told him I'm trying to help and he said " you claim you have this "cousin" who can get my name out there, you've been saying this for a while, but you haven't done anything yet." and I said " I haven't seen him recently" and he replied "CALL HIM does nobody have a number and a phone!" and he went on just exploding and I was almost in tears.
I know his art means so much to him and I try my hardest to comfort him and listen to him, but nothing seems to help. He said he wouldn't talk about his art unless it is positive (and I have gotten a hold of my cousin, I just need to discuss some stuff with him and my boyfriend is getting his portfolio together.) but today he went and looked at my cousins art online and got all upset because it was "better" than his. And went on complaining again and I told him "you are the male equivalent to <insert name here> (name protected, this was the name of a way good artist in my school)' and he freaked out and was like "what is that supposed to mean?" and he was like "so you're saying my art is equal to someone else's?"
and when I said "I'm going to spend time with my family, I love you, goodnight"(after all it is Christmas Eve) he didn't say I love you back and I had to use sarcasm to get him to say it...
I don't know what to do. He's being so angry and depressed and has this Self Loathing streak about him and he keeps saying I'm the only one he can go to for help, but whenever I offer it he makes me feel like I'm not trying... It's tearing me apart and taking up valuable time from me.
I don't know what to do or say.... Please help me!