Body dismorphic and my dad keeps taking photos of me when I least expect it... Am I

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in the wrong?please read.? I am body dismorphic and my dad keeps on taking photos of me, totally off-guard (when I look so horrific) and he puts them on facebook for all his family and friends to look at. It makes me so upset. I have said 'please don't take my photograph' but he just shouts at me and makes me feel pathetic. I am 21, still living at home. Am I being unreasonable for asking him not to take them? I would be fine if he would give me some notice so that I can fix my hair. I honestly look like a slob with no makeup, my hair tied back, and in my pajamas. I feel like crying :(
**dysmorphic, sorry. Bad spelling, my bad.
Just to add, it is my side profile that I have big problems with. I wear my hair back in the house (I usually wear it down to cover my side profile) but he catches me off guard, and takes loads of photos of me from the side.

This is not just me thinking that I am ugly... I am deadly serious, I end up running to my room and weeping uncontrollably when he does it. He just will not listen, he just shouts and tells me to grow up.
 
I am wondering if your dad is trying to help you to recover from this psychiatric disorder you have, since this is a mental disorder that you can recover from if you choose to. No, it is not okay to continually take pictures of you without your permission but I seriously doubt he is deliberately trying to hurt you. You are an adult now and it is time for you to begin to look at yourself on the inside more than the outside. Your issue results in your thinking alone and maybe if you change this, you will not feel so hurt at what he is doing. I am sure he loves you very much and thinks you are very beautiful. Maybe it is time you thought the same.......Have you gone for counselling in regards to this disorder and if not, maybe you should to get your life back.
 
No, HE'S in the wrong. I'm pretty sure it's illegal to take people's photos without their permission anyway.
Speak to your mum about it? Maybe she can speak some sense into him.
I know he's your dad, but he's acting like a complete arsehole, and you need to get him to see it from your point of view.
Does he know you're body dysmorphic? If he knows, but doesn't fully understand the condition, maybe you could print off some information off of wikipedia to give to him, and show him how harmful it is for him to treat you like this. Compare the emotions and the humiliation you are feeling when he takes pictures of you, to himself, for example, you taking pictures of him while he's on the loo and then posting them on the internet.
Make him understand that it is an actual psychological disorder, not just a bit of insecurity that needs getting over, and that him being so callous and cruel certainly isn't helping you deal with it.

Good luck honey, and I hope you get him to understand =)

xxxx Alexa xxxx
 
body dysmorphic disorder usually focuses on a certain part of the body, if you feel you look "ugly" without makeup or in your pyjamas that's not a disorder, that's natural.

I assume you are female, and your dad is definitely not respecting your privacy. Consider looking for some external help. Your dad shouldn't be taking your pictures in the first place.
 
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