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Carol R

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Every once in a while, things start to look up. Like things are going to go according to plan, or at the very least, not horribly wrong. It's a good feeling, but apparently I cling to it too much, because the second things don't go the way they should, or something unexpected happens, I completely break down.

It seems like no matter how hard I try, everything goes wrong. I try to stay positive and make things work, but it just doesn't. Instead, everything goes all wrong at the same time.

I'm frustrated and upset and all I can seem to do lately is cry because I'm running out of ideas. I'm a basket case. I can't concentrate on anything.

I fucking hate it.
 
Well without nailing down something specific that says as to what it is you're going through... you're not really giving us an angle to give you a point to attack it in a positive manner.

But in all generalizations there's always the matter of perspective to account for. I do have to say in the time that I've known you, you've always had one thing or another to bring you down or at least something to challenge the good time you're trying to have in life. So, with that in mind there's one of two mindsets that you need to consider running yourself through since the obvious growing pessimism that you're developing is gaining you no quarter.

A) The optimists route: This would seem a little harder to achieve for you since things do seem to constantly be going bad for you. But you could still try it. You could try and put on a smile for everything and just try and act like nothing in the world could bug you. But, like I said this would be the harder road for how your days are going since I've known you.

B) The careless route: This one is easy to do... but it can have a load of negative future kharma (sp?) if you were to go down this road. This is the road where you just don't give a shit about anything/anyone. You could care less about what problems your friends or family are facing and you'd bend backwards for nobody. The shirt off your back? Hell, they'd be lucky to get the button off of your boot! You're looking out for you and NOBODY else! You're number one in your book and everyone else can go jump in a lake.
Sure people can hang around you, but you'll be damned if you'd call ANY of them friends or do anything that may be worthwhile for them. As I said, you can try this route... but it can have assloads of negative stuff down the road for you. You can wind up destroying friendships that you've had for years, and even be turned away from your family to where they'd never wanna speak with you again (don't know if THAT'S so bad considering).

Needless to say the only thing you can do is continue to bite down and just fucking go through it. Other than that though, there's really nothing else I can do to help you through whatever it is you're facing... that is until you tell us what's going on.
 
I still work in a computer lab on campus and i hear this lil tidbit from an airhead cheerleader type:

"When i feel bad i find a isolated looser in a semi public place and show him my tits, then leave quickly...I rock his world and he gets something totalloy awesome added to his day"

My translation:

Take beef's advice and also go do something random and nice for someone else like superwoman/wonder woman and feel your spirits lifted by your kindness and competency. Oh and Bewbs rule:D
 
Hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.

Today the sun could be shining and your boss gives you a raise. Or some asshole could t-bone your car and you get whiplash. Lifes a fucking rollercoaster ride. Sit down, strap up and hang on.

Btw, I do hope things get better for you.
 
Hey, life really is a rollercoaster. Just try not to focus on what can go wrong/does go wrong/might go wrong. It does happen, but if you focus more on how to make things better, the stuff that goes wrong won't seem so bad. Think of them as challenges and not road blocks. I used to be where you are. Some of my road blocks would really upset me and put me in a funk, but there's always something that can be done differently. I focused on that, forced myself to see something good within that road block and I got myself out of that bad situation. I would get so mad that life doesnt' always go the way I felt it should. Sometimes I felt I deserved a better outcome, but it just doesn't always work out that way. Don't let those thoughts bring you down. Whatever happens, you'll always be ok!

Cheer up! You are OK!
 
Sorry, but you're not a kid anymore. Your life isn't just going to magically make you happy. It never will.

Happiness as an adult is about FINDING things. What REALLY makes you happy? For me, it's helping people, so I find ways within each and every day to help people. But YOU are responsible for your happiness. If you're not finding it, try harder.
 
Absolutely. I was this way for a lot of my life but I decided, fuck it, I am going to be happy regardless. Try to learn from the bad rather than let it bring you down.

And there really is something to that saying "fake it until you make it." Pretend to be happy even when you aren't and sometimes you find you actually are.
 
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