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Melina Ms. Paparazzi ♡

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Lately I've been noticing that I am EVERYBODY's bitch. But I have no idea why I let them treat me as such... I just... never retaliate. I mean, whenever somebody asks me for something, I do it. (unless it is completely unreasonable) Like that first job that I got--min. wage. Well in the interview my former boss said that if I were to work two consecutive 50 hr. work weeks, he would bump my hourly pay for those two weeks up to $15! Dumb old me went along with this, and after I had worked 99 hours, he fired me, and I didn't get paid shit. :sad: The reason I went along with that was cause... well... I needed the money for preliminary expenses. :sad: After that, I got a good job cause a nice man came up to me while I was moping around the streets, and asked me what was wrong. Words were exchanged, and I got a 9.50 an hour job with very flexible hours. :happysad: Then at school I do most anything for anybody that I know anything about. Yet everybody still treats me like shit. Help? Advice? A word of encouragement? Am I doomed to be the public bitch?
 
Yeah I agree with Bklyn you don't have to be nice to everyone. When someone fucks with me I do the same back to them. Only more painful :happysad:
 
The only thing I think should be added is don't dwell on it. You might be called on by a bunch of people to do stupid shit, but that sets you apart from other people. Remember that you have need to though, if you need to do something, and your friend asked you to watch his dog, say no. If you have a hard time saying no, act pissed off. People are not very likely to ask someone to do something when it looks like there about to break something.

Always remember your needs, you come first. And remember to stay away from the things that are too good to be true (aka, $15 and hour at MCdonalds)
 
I used to have the same sort of trouble - just wanting to get along, help out, but sometimes feeling resentment when folks took it (and me) for granted.

There's a book, "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty", written by Manuel J. Smith, that offers some suggestions on asserting oneself without losing that innate generousity of spirit. If you get a chance, might want to see about getting a copy. Just understanding how to avoid being manipulated or coerced is a big step in getting on top of those types of situations.

It's OK to be a nice guy. Just be that way because you want to be, not because you think that's what others expect.
 
Don't do anything stupid, but just chill out some. Sometimes, helping someone will make you feel better, but it might make someone else want to ask you to do something. If you push the fact that you can't do it, they should back off. If they don't, then go nutz.
 
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