im a new mother. my baby is 3 months old. 2 months after i had my baby, my boyfriend's 4 year old daughter came to live with us. She is very hard headed and she doesnt listen very well. she does things on purpose to make us mad. being loud, waking up the baby everytime she's put to sleep. she wastes her food constantly and talks back.....stomps and slams the door when she cant get her way. She screams and cries more than our baby. and she show's extreme jealousy when my boyfriend shows me and our baby any attention. she jumps up and tries to hug and kiss her dad if he shows us any attention. She's giving the daycare lady problems too...opening her door without her permission. Honestly, she acts like she has ADHD...but she only acts really really bad when her dad comes around b/c he goes a little easier on her than what I do. She cant sit still...she's always moving, running jumping (way more than the average kid), and constantly talking....we cant eat dinner or even watch a movie without her talking the entire time and being loud or whinning about something. I feel like a prisoner in my own home. I dont even enjoy my time when i get off work b/c i come home to a 4 year old that cries more than my infant. it doesnt matter how many times we tell her not to do something, she continues to do it, even knowing she's going to get in trouble for it (sent to her room or put in a corner). She's ruining my quality time with my new baby...everytime im spending time with my baby, she interrupts it by getting physically between us and imitating what im saying to my baby. she's always up in my baby's face kissing her on her lips when I've told her not to. im trying my hardest to be understanding b/c i know she comes from a broken home and comes from a place where she does not receive discipline...but i can only take so much. im not gonna break up with my bf, but she drives me up a wall! she woke me up like 3 times yesterday b/c she's so loud in the bathtub...she keeps turning the water on in the tub, splashing water on the floor on purpose, and digging soap bottles out of the trash to play with in the tub!
I have plenty neices and nephews, and i know kids do silly things. but she is more hyperactive and hard headed than the average child. she does not listen, and she acts as if me and my bf are supposed to cater to her...she wants to tell us what to cook, what channel we can watch, and she even tells us "you're supposed to watch me in the bathtub so i dont do bad things". she recognizes when she's doing something wrong and she knows better....but she chooses to do it anyway. how do i deal with this? i try to be nice to her but im getting to a point where i just go in my room with my baby and leave my bf to deal with her. she drives him up a wall too, but he feels bad cause that's his blood daughter. i dread going home b/c of her. what can i do to make my days less stressfull? she's just a loud cunning little girl who has been exposed to a lot...she knows way more than what she should know and she thinks she can run our household....i just went from no kids to 2 kids in less than 3 months and i love the time i have with my baby...but the step daughter is a problem.
i was sleeping while she was in the tub...her father was up watching her.
Ella's Mommy: Actually I do have a degree! lol. please don't assume things. This post was specifically for advice about her bad behavior. I did not post this to talk about the goodness in the situation. I have been put through a lot...being a first time mother and having to take on a lot of financial responsibility. It's a big change for us all. Yes, this little girl is from a broken home. Just because I'm an adult does not mean I'm not human. I'm being put through a lot too. I didnt know this little girl existed until recently. She does need discipline...she is not a "good" or "bad" child. but she does have problems. I'm trying to figure out the best way to handle them. dont be so judgmental. maybe you havent goine through anything like this before.
I have plenty neices and nephews, and i know kids do silly things. but she is more hyperactive and hard headed than the average child. she does not listen, and she acts as if me and my bf are supposed to cater to her...she wants to tell us what to cook, what channel we can watch, and she even tells us "you're supposed to watch me in the bathtub so i dont do bad things". she recognizes when she's doing something wrong and she knows better....but she chooses to do it anyway. how do i deal with this? i try to be nice to her but im getting to a point where i just go in my room with my baby and leave my bf to deal with her. she drives him up a wall too, but he feels bad cause that's his blood daughter. i dread going home b/c of her. what can i do to make my days less stressfull? she's just a loud cunning little girl who has been exposed to a lot...she knows way more than what she should know and she thinks she can run our household....i just went from no kids to 2 kids in less than 3 months and i love the time i have with my baby...but the step daughter is a problem.
i was sleeping while she was in the tub...her father was up watching her.
Ella's Mommy: Actually I do have a degree! lol. please don't assume things. This post was specifically for advice about her bad behavior. I did not post this to talk about the goodness in the situation. I have been put through a lot...being a first time mother and having to take on a lot of financial responsibility. It's a big change for us all. Yes, this little girl is from a broken home. Just because I'm an adult does not mean I'm not human. I'm being put through a lot too. I didnt know this little girl existed until recently. She does need discipline...she is not a "good" or "bad" child. but she does have problems. I'm trying to figure out the best way to handle them. dont be so judgmental. maybe you havent goine through anything like this before.