Several things. First of all, there is very little chance that the people who work at a store really know much beyond what it takes to sell phones and features.
So for help, call T-mo tech support.
As far as the web goes, it is not a good sampling of the people who use the service. The people most likely to post are the people that are angry for some reason, and often times they are blaming ATT for their own problems. I have seen people complain because they knowingly signed up for service, and then decided they wanted to change carriers and do not want to pay the fees.
Does ATT have issues, yes. But then again so do all the carriers, I doubt that ATT is any worse than the others.