At 54, I dont get any sex from my wife.She doesnt want to talk about unless...

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...things go her way>What to do? I am 54 years old male.You remember i asked before about a year that my wife doesnt give me sex unless i do what she want >somebody suggested may be i dont ask her any and she may ask herself for it >well now I tried that and i dont get any now at least for about 4 months She sleeps on a separate bed (futon).in fact and after work prepares food and goes on watching Tv. and sleep .We have grade school kids by the way.I dont want to start anything but how long can i do this.Any idea.We were married almost 20 years .By the way i have checked and she doesnt have any relationship from outside. any suggestion without ruining my marrage.By the way , she is much younger than me.But that was not a problem.
 
I suggest marriage counseling to get to the bottom of the problem. Sex is very important in a realtionship. If nothing changes, then divorce her.
 
No offense intended but, I think your wife is being selfish. You deserve sex from her at least once in a while, that's part of being married other than being loved by that person. Tell her how you feel, girls respond when men tell them what's on their mind. Tell her that you don't think it's fair for you.
There's also the possibility that something's bothering her, ask her first and then tell her how you feel.
 
There could be several contributing factors to why your wife does not want to have sex. These can range from emotional to physical. One of the most common reasons why a woman does not want sex is that she is just too tired. It sounds like your wife is a busy woman. You did not say her age or whether you also work. If the reason is emotional, then the best thing to do is to do the things that you did before you got together that made her want to be with you in the first place. Try having dinner ready for her when she gets home from work as a surprise. Or, another great idea is to clean the house, there is nothing sexier than a man cleaning house. You can try surprising her with gifts, it doesn't have to be anything expensive, but it should show that you put some thought into it. Such as leave little notes hidden around the house that she will find that tell her that you are glad that she is your wife and that she is attractive. Ask her if she would like you to give her a massage. Remember that it is the small things that matter most. Treat her like she is precious to you and that you are always her number one supporter. A woman needs to feel close to a man emotionally before she will want to be close to him physically.

If it is physical, then she should talk to her doctor about lack of sex drive. Perhaps he could prescribe hormones or something else that will bring her sex drive back to normal.

Best of luck. I hope you get some really soon.
 
I think that you need a romantic interlude with her to get her back into the swing of things. Women need more work than men normally. Sex is very important to me and I am a 49 nearly 50 girl. Watch a really romantic movie together after a night out. Also, take a look at yourself, what turned her own about you in the first place. Spruce up and dress well and put on some nice cologne. Slow dancing is very sexually stimulating. If you have a sexy chest, show it off. Take her out to eat so that she doesn't have to cook, so she will have the energy for lovemaking later. When women are tired, it is hard to get them motivated. Normally men can be motivated very easily...women just take more work. Try rubbing her back, JUST HER BACK...this does it for me. Good luck. I hope it works out.
 
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