Are you letting your groom pick his own attire?

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Lovin29

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I am. I think it's better that way- I want to be surprised too AND it gives him his own freedom/identity which is so often overlooked.

The only obstacle is cohesiveness...I think I'll ask his parents to go with him (nice family time for them) because they will have seen the gown and will know how to sway him if necessary.


Do you already have a look/preference in mind for your fiance?
What are you doing?
I guess it does depend on the groom. If he's one that really would feel lost doing this- than certainly go with. BUT- my man is ridiculously, stubbornly independent! He wouldn't mind my opinion, but I know I could make him do something he didn't want.
 
Awesome! Great idea :) I'm not getting married, but I don't picture anything or have anything layed out in my mind, no. I'd just let him do his own thing.
 
At first I thought a tux was a tux and it didnt matter, but leave it up to my fiance to choose something off the wall. He showed me a very strange vest and I had to put my foot down. We are going to go together to the tux shop because we have to pick out the groomsmens tux's at that time anyways.
 
If I would have let him go by himself, I would have ended up with a CAMO wedding!

We went together. I let him choose his tux and we (I) decided on olive green for the vests - instead of camo.

He decided that he wants to wear a white vest. So, he's going to be in a black tux, black shirt, and a white vest and tie. His GM are going to be in a black tux, white shirt and the olive green vest and tie.

Ahh...compromise without camo. Its a beautiful thing.
 
I wanted my fiance to pick his own so badly, but he really wanted me to come with him. Not that there is that much variation in a tux but I wanted to be surprised at least a little. He refuses to know anything about my gown, shoes, hair, makeup, or anything like that, yet I had to go and pick out a tux for him.
 
We had a tropical beach wedding. I decided on a wedding gown and then we decided he'd wear linen pants and shirt of some kind. We just went to Macy's and he tried on a few things. He picked a red shirt because he said it would photograph well against the background of sand and sea, which it did. I was with him for the shopping, but I didn't try to control his purchase. He's a grown man, not a child.
 
The wedding is ours, not just mine, so he will pick his own attire. I don't understand when brides tell them what they can and can't wear. The groom isn't a child, so I don't get why they need to be told what to wear. It's his wedding too, if he wants to wear an orange jumpsuit, he can. I won't necessarily be happy about it, but he can make his own choices.
 
i would let hi cuz its his choice and yeah u want every thing to be perfect but if u realy love him u wouldnt pay attention to what hes wearing
 
I told him no white tuxes.

He went on his own, with a swatch of my color/fabric, to pick them. He came home and said the tailor said a light silver vest/cummerbund would be best for the groomsmen. I told him a blue in a close color to what I had would be better. He was going down the next day to switch to the blue I wanted. I called him before he got there and told him that this was HIS wedding, too, and if he wanted the guys in the silver color, that's what they should have.

He told me at the wedding that though he was happy the color was ultimately his decision, he wished he'd listened to me and gone with the blue because it would have looked better.

It's funny because my husband basically planned our wedding. I didn't do much by way of planning. He picked the flowers, the colors of the flowers, the linen colors at the venue, etc.
 
Don't let him choose, he probably doesn't even want to choose and is just agreeing to to help you out.. the woman/bride to be has earned the right to have total control over her own wedding, if nothing else in life lol. And if you think you haven't earned it, you will after the wedding when real life sets in! lol The wedding is the bride's wedding, the guy just shows up if he loves the woman enough lol. Sorry, thats just the way it is.
 
I went with him to pick out a tux and tuxes for the groomsmen, but I let him choose what he wanted. The only reason I went with him was because of cohesiveness too, so that he could find vests for the guys that match the bridesmaids dresses.
 
I told my husband to go ahead and choose all the attire for the men. After all, what do I know about tuxes?! And it was a wonderful surprise for me as well. He has great taste, and he knows the preferences of his guys more than I could. I guess the only input I did have was helping him choose the vest color/pattern for the groomsmen.

It was really nice to have him have that responsibility too...it took one thing off my to do list.
 
I told my husband to go ahead and choose all the attire for the men. After all, what do I know about tuxes?! And it was a wonderful surprise for me as well. He has great taste, and he knows the preferences of his guys more than I could. I guess the only input I did have was helping him choose the vest color/pattern for the groomsmen.

It was really nice to have him have that responsibility too...it took one thing off my to do list.
 
Clearly, weddings are all about the bride and not about the groom. It would work just as well to have the groom just participate by telephone. Therefore it doesn't matter what attire he picks; so you may as well choose it.
 
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