Are you having problems in your marriage due to debt/ financial situation?

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I was wondering from married people if you are having problems in your marriage due to debt? Did you get married in debt or was the debt incurred during the marriage? And if you are having financial problems did it cause you to divorce or is there a chance you might divorce?

I ask this because my fiance and I want to get married. However he has about 15,000 US dollars worth of debt right now and no savings. I also have no savings because I was recently in college fulltime and just graduated. I have been unable to find work more than 1- 2 days a week (it varies week to week) due to the economy and my chosen career having no job openings right now. If I worked fulltime or even a few more days a week I wouldn't be worried because I would save and I have no debt. But I am worried about getting married to a man with no savings and 15,000 in debt. And I don't make enough money to save much or to be able to support myself or a family.

Any advice from married people about marriage and debt?
 
I totally agree with the chick above me!Do what you wish & what makes you happy,but in the long run it wont work out.I would just stick it out & wait!
My husband and I both had debt,then we managed to bring more debt into the marriage.Just look at the statistics,more people get divorced over money then anything else.
Especially if they are young.But who are we kidding rite?You are your own person & will do what you please...Take it from my Mother-In Law she is 55 and divorced,she has a boyfriend and he bought her a home,car & they provide for one another,but she will not burden him with her debt there for she will not marry him.Good luck to you,and if you choose to jump in the water,make sure you take care of your responsibilities
 
I know a couple that are getting divorced after over 30 years of marriage because of debt. I also know a couple that have been married over 30 years, they recently lost everything because of medical problems, but they are staying together. $15,000 isn't very much debt compared to what some people have. Many people have such large debt there is no possibility of making enough money to pay it off. Interest rates rise, people become stressed, and they get divorced. It's better to get married instead of living together. If you and your fiance are willing to work together and pay down the debt there shouldn't be problems. Make more than the minimum payments and that will help. After you get married you will have other debt if you buy a home. Now is the time to learn to work as a team.
 
Hold it, hold it!!!!..........Do not get married right now!!! No matter how much he loves you he is taking his terrible financial problems that he was not responsible enough to control and making them yours. Right now, his financial problems are only caused by him., He needs to be responsible and handle this and clear it up before he marries you.

Money problems have been a huge problem for me and my husband and is usually the number one divorce maker. We continue to work thru it and had no problems with money before we got married. But, his overspending caught up with us and we have conquered alot of ground. We are fine now.

Be careful before you make the worst heartache of your life!!
 
I suggest that BEFORE you marry that he takes care of that debt. Like someone already informed you, that debt becomes your debt. Finances and sex play a major role in a marriage next to religion and who's in laws to spend holidays with. Talk it over with a financial planner and plan out a payment plan to help settle his debt. A wedding itself can prove an even bigger financial burden, so before you jump the broom, take your vows, etc, really think about your future with him. It's fixable, but he'll have to work at it. Good luck. And also give yourselves a goal as to when the debt will be reduced dramatically.
 
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