car05161967
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...against them in a relationship? I was born with one pre-existing condition, that caused another one. The surgeries to correct the two, caused a third.
I met my (ex)wife in 1987, got married in 1992, separated in 1997(her doing) and, divorced in 2000(my doing).
About a year after she left, she told me that, for years she had wished my health problems 'would just go away'. That ignorant attitude was most evident when, I had a major health scare in 1995. While she was present and saw what was happening, she did nothing to keep me safe. She even said once, she "couldn't deal with heavy issues", even though I had told her about them when we started dating.
Every relationship(except for the present one) before or since that, has failed once the woman found out about my health.
Am I the only one that has been blindsided by bigotry related to ones' health?
geez louise-I might have agreed with you, if the situation with my ex-wife had occurred after we got married.
But we dated for five years prior to getting married and, when she asked me out(yes she asked me out), I was immediately upfront with her about my health problems. So therefore, she is a bigot. In 2004, her family finally acknowledged she had problems, which I had picked up on, when we met in 1987.
Poopypuss3-You are not stupid. You are just you. Don't let anyone make you think differently. Your ex is the one that is stupid. I bet they lost a gem of a human being.
But Inside I Am Screaming-Your ex sounds like my ex-wife. They wanted 'the perfect specimen', instead of holding to, 'in sickness and in health'.
ilikerice-That is so true. My ex-wife was diagnosed with an ASD(Autism Spectrum Disorder) in 2004, four years after I had divorced her. Had I known in 1987(the year we met and started dating)that she had an ASD, maybe we would still be married. Her lack of emotional functionality would be more understandable.
At the same time, her ignorance wasn't her doing alone. It was perpetuated by her parents and, maternal grandparents. Almost like she was some dirty little secret to be kept hidden somewhere. The year we started dating, her father had re-married after being divorced for ten years. His new wife fourteen years younger than him had two kids from her first marriage. They are less than five years younger than my ex-wife n' her younger brother. When I would be at their house for lunch or dinner and the other two kids were there, I always noticed how her brother n' step-siblings were treated with respect like the evil sisters in Cinderella. My ex-wife was treated like an 'ugly duckling'
I met my (ex)wife in 1987, got married in 1992, separated in 1997(her doing) and, divorced in 2000(my doing).
About a year after she left, she told me that, for years she had wished my health problems 'would just go away'. That ignorant attitude was most evident when, I had a major health scare in 1995. While she was present and saw what was happening, she did nothing to keep me safe. She even said once, she "couldn't deal with heavy issues", even though I had told her about them when we started dating.
Every relationship(except for the present one) before or since that, has failed once the woman found out about my health.
Am I the only one that has been blindsided by bigotry related to ones' health?
geez louise-I might have agreed with you, if the situation with my ex-wife had occurred after we got married.
But we dated for five years prior to getting married and, when she asked me out(yes she asked me out), I was immediately upfront with her about my health problems. So therefore, she is a bigot. In 2004, her family finally acknowledged she had problems, which I had picked up on, when we met in 1987.
Poopypuss3-You are not stupid. You are just you. Don't let anyone make you think differently. Your ex is the one that is stupid. I bet they lost a gem of a human being.
But Inside I Am Screaming-Your ex sounds like my ex-wife. They wanted 'the perfect specimen', instead of holding to, 'in sickness and in health'.
ilikerice-That is so true. My ex-wife was diagnosed with an ASD(Autism Spectrum Disorder) in 2004, four years after I had divorced her. Had I known in 1987(the year we met and started dating)that she had an ASD, maybe we would still be married. Her lack of emotional functionality would be more understandable.
At the same time, her ignorance wasn't her doing alone. It was perpetuated by her parents and, maternal grandparents. Almost like she was some dirty little secret to be kept hidden somewhere. The year we started dating, her father had re-married after being divorced for ten years. His new wife fourteen years younger than him had two kids from her first marriage. They are less than five years younger than my ex-wife n' her younger brother. When I would be at their house for lunch or dinner and the other two kids were there, I always noticed how her brother n' step-siblings were treated with respect like the evil sisters in Cinderella. My ex-wife was treated like an 'ugly duckling'