I know women will always have standards (some are unrealistic) but if he treats us with respect, you've got us hooked. Guys on the other hand, don't "list off" qualities (as much as women) but are more likely to put their foot down and act on something they don't like. I know we've all been cultured into believing if a guy won't do anything, "he's just not that into you" BUT I have recently been hearing these stories where men will not act on it because sometimes, they feel as if they're not "good enough". We often hear women to admitting this but guys, not so much. I've also been told the younger, they are, the more they run. If a guy in their early 20's meets a girl who's "everything they want in a girl", they run. Guess it goes back to the "women mature faster than men" rule.
I also watched on Oprah that "diff'rent strokes' star Todd bridges admitted to dumping janet jackson bc he felt that he "wasn't good enough". He came from a bad, poor past (drugs as well) and she's a sweet girl that had so much ambition, potential, and everything goin for her...yet he dumped her. You would think he would stay or work hard but he didn't...and that leaves me so confused. This has happened to many girlfriends (of mine), including me. I just got out of a break up fr. a 23 yr old. I'm the first one who he's dated that's his age (thing is, I've been told I act older than 23). I'm different than all his exes who were high maintinence and dramatic. I was respectful, appreciative YET not a doormat and expected to be respected. He said i was "everything he wants in a girl"...yet headed for the hills. Sometimes I felt he saw more of the potential in me than I had in myself. He talk about the future and always mention how he sees me as being "successful" bc of how decisive I am of my plans and who I am. We got along GREAT but came fr. different backgrounds - socio-economic, educational, family situations, etc...I understand those are important compatibility factors but that didn't matter to me...but I guess it did for him...
Thoughts?
I also watched on Oprah that "diff'rent strokes' star Todd bridges admitted to dumping janet jackson bc he felt that he "wasn't good enough". He came from a bad, poor past (drugs as well) and she's a sweet girl that had so much ambition, potential, and everything goin for her...yet he dumped her. You would think he would stay or work hard but he didn't...and that leaves me so confused. This has happened to many girlfriends (of mine), including me. I just got out of a break up fr. a 23 yr old. I'm the first one who he's dated that's his age (thing is, I've been told I act older than 23). I'm different than all his exes who were high maintinence and dramatic. I was respectful, appreciative YET not a doormat and expected to be respected. He said i was "everything he wants in a girl"...yet headed for the hills. Sometimes I felt he saw more of the potential in me than I had in myself. He talk about the future and always mention how he sees me as being "successful" bc of how decisive I am of my plans and who I am. We got along GREAT but came fr. different backgrounds - socio-economic, educational, family situations, etc...I understand those are important compatibility factors but that didn't matter to me...but I guess it did for him...
Thoughts?