Are People Born Shy/Introverts Or Does Their Environment Make Them Shy?

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Hi,

I've always had the problem of being shy throughout my 2ndary school and despite an initial few days of being loud and meeting people at univeristy, my shyness is catching up with me.

I'm not deadly silent, but unless with good friends I often find myself going silent, it's not because I don't want to talk/have fun, I just feel myself sought of clam up and be afraid to be of the centre of attention, whereas with those I know/in smaller groups I am the opposite a bit of a loud mouth doing stupid stuff.....
This has lead to an internal dilemma, as I want to be this loud person with larger groups and new people, but I just can't, or at least it's very hard for me to.

Is this because I'm naturally shy/an introvert?? Or does every1 find this?

Also, out of interest are people really born as shy/introverts? Or are they moulded by their environment? If people are naturall shy/introverted, how dyu tell if you are???

Any answers would be really appreciated, thanks!
 
I think that introversion is probably a result of certain biological factors and environmental factors, as well. Some may have underlying psychological issues such as social phobia or depression, however, I bet that mostly this is just a natural variation of human expression. I too have the same problem as I am quite shy when I'm not around people I feel comfortable with, but can become extroverted around friends. Nevertheless, introverted is not the same as shyness, as introverted people prefer solitary activities vs people who are shy who tend to avoid human contact, even though both tend to go hand in hand.
 
I think there's a genetic component a lot of the time. I was abused by family, neighbors, and "friends" as a child because I was shy. But I outgrew it. I never did forgive them, though.

Some scientists think shyness is a protective mechanism to guard against predators (look up "xenophobia"). How many shy kids are likely to get in a car with a stranger?

If shyness is severe, it can sometimes be treated with anti-depressants, even if you're not "depressed".

How do you tell if you are? If your self-esteem is good, you don't feel a disproportionate amount of rage, or weren't abused in the past. If you feel normal otherwise, you're probably born that way, but it's nothing to be ashamed of.
 
I think there's a genetic component a lot of the time. I was abused by family, neighbors, and "friends" as a child because I was shy. But I outgrew it. I never did forgive them, though.

Some scientists think shyness is a protective mechanism to guard against predators (look up "xenophobia"). How many shy kids are likely to get in a car with a stranger?

If shyness is severe, it can sometimes be treated with anti-depressants, even if you're not "depressed".

How do you tell if you are? If your self-esteem is good, you don't feel a disproportionate amount of rage, or weren't abused in the past. If you feel normal otherwise, you're probably born that way, but it's nothing to be ashamed of.
 
Since an introvert or extrovert person can actually be classified as one or the other, chances are we are born that way, but environment does have an effect on our self esteem under the guise of being introvert, so both can be factors.
 
Since an introvert or extrovert person can actually be classified as one or the other, chances are we are born that way, but environment does have an effect on our self esteem under the guise of being introvert, so both can be factors.
 
I think there's a genetic component a lot of the time. I was abused by family, neighbors, and "friends" as a child because I was shy. But I outgrew it. I never did forgive them, though.

Some scientists think shyness is a protective mechanism to guard against predators (look up "xenophobia"). How many shy kids are likely to get in a car with a stranger?

If shyness is severe, it can sometimes be treated with anti-depressants, even if you're not "depressed".

How do you tell if you are? If your self-esteem is good, you don't feel a disproportionate amount of rage, or weren't abused in the past. If you feel normal otherwise, you're probably born that way, but it's nothing to be ashamed of.
 
if you read on early childhood they say it more of the environment you grow in then how you are born.

but i think it's normal to feel shy i mean you are in university and you may not have many friends in your class so it is kinda hard making new friends especially if they have their friends in the same class. You'll make friends and become more open and not feel so shy. But because you are a shy person this maybe harder on you then someone that is usually out there, it will take time. i say don't worry about it. i'm like you. i'm very shy and it's very hard for me to make friends sometimes on the spot but eventually i do. :)

hope this helped :)
 
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