Are parents really as embarrassed to discuss the "facts of life"?

I'm not but many are. Sadly that is why schools have had to start teaching sex education because so many parents are not doing it. I don't know what the big deal is. I see questions on here all the time about when and how to have the "big talk" with their kids. First of all it's not one big talk, let's get with the times people. It's an ongoing conversation that you have starting at a young age giving age appropriate details and answering questions honestly. If you start out at a young age then you open the doors of communication and your child will feel more comfortable coming to you and it will be the norm. It's only awkward when you say nothing at all about anything and then at 12 suddenly decide maybe you should.
 
It's embarrassing sure, but it's something that should be talked about...in fact, it's a great way to open discussions about values and morals too. You can't just assume your kids are going to have the same values on love, marriage, sex, intimacy etc. as you do unless you have open dialogue about that stuff. Some things they will learn by example, but other things there needs to be discussion.

My Mom was completely embarrassed to discuss any of it with me and just handed me a book. I wish she had been braver, because maybe I wouldn't have been sexually active as young as I had been if I thought someone was paying attention.
 
I think so, I am really open and comfortable with my sexuality and the sexuality of others, but the girls in my family are kinda prude about it. My sister has four kids and still refers to sex as "doing it". It is kinda annoying that people are soo ashamed of themselves and reproductive organs that everyone has. She said she will just let school teach them. I rather tell my children myself and share my thought and opinions with them before getting sexual education in school. I wouldn't be embarrassed at all but my kids might.
 
I taught my children from when they were little what can happen to the body when you have your menstrual cycle. I taught them what can happen when you have sex. I also taught them that their feelings are important and should not be dismissed, if someone makes them uncomfortable then say so, no need to be afraid of anyone. (even if its mom and dad) I taught them that there are consequences to premarital sex and what can happen if something goes wrong. I will always love my children even when they make mistakes but when you prepare them for everything then there is no mistakes. It is a subject that (in my opinion) should be started when they are young and be a continuing part of their home life education skills. There is no need to be shy in terms or be silly about it. Again also in my opinion the school system is there to teach the ABC's and 123's not sex education to my kids. If you cannot talk about it in adult terms then talk to a counselor about it, they will help you.
 
not even 50 years ago, you didn't discuss the birds and the bees at leisure with your children. it was a grave talk that was made only once and never spoke of again. My grandmother is still the same way. i had to learn about the facts of life from a school class.

i think its better if parents can have a open talk with thier children especially in light of the epidemic of teen parent hood on the rise.

My child will know the facts ALL THE FACTS from a young age. will that piss some people off, yes. will that have my child more prepared for the challanges of sex when they are old, Maybe. if its not considered taboo to them, then maybe they won't feel pressured into doing something rebellous.
 
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