It's too bad that, as I said before, Every part of a woman in almost every shape can be beautiful to men. Woman can be, and almost always are beautiful without even trying to be just because they are women. Thus is not the case for how women see men.
The general thing is not that beauty is a desirable trait, is that it is an almost inherent trait in all women, and that every one is beautiful in their own way. Because a woman is a woman, it is impossible for her not to be sexualized by some group.
Women do not solelly judge men by their bodies, and in fact, as far as I can see, body is almost a secondary charachteristic for women to judge men. It's always personality that comes first and foremost, and in fact, will supercede physical beauty if the personality is undesirable.
For men, it is almost the opposite. Unless a woman's personality is COMPLETELY objectionable, if that woman is beautiful, men will always be somewhat attracted to her. That's not to say personality is unimportant, as with a great persoanlity, a physically plain girl can far outshine one who is more physically beautiful.
This is the exact thing I'm talking about. Nomatter what size breast a woman has, there are so many different types of men and different men like different size breasts. In fact, I`d probably say that men who like smaller ones are often ostracized by both men and women. Thus, by your statement(A woman which would purposely lack traits men desire), it would be IMPOSSIBLE to have a woman that cannot be sexualized, as there are hundreRAB of different male groups which like different body types, hairstyles, ethnicities, etc...
There is a paradox here.
Desireable traits are Desirable, to comandeer a meme, nomatter what the gender. Girls can like being beautiful just as Guys can like girls for being beautiful. Girls can like being strong-willed and intelligent and guys can like them for the same reason.