Anger Imploding

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judo

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I think in the near future I might have trouble controlling my anger.
At the moment I tend to have an "I don't give a shit" attitude. I bottle things up inside when I need to talk about things. The problem is that I can't always remember what it is that I bottle up. I can feel surges of anger run through my body occasionally and I get pissed off with something really simple and meaningless.

Now I do have allot patients with allot of things. But just occasionally the little things annoy the fuck out of me. With not knowing what the hell is going on in my head, it sends me down into emotional dips. I wouldn't call it depression because I know that it's not that. I was in one of these dips a few weeks ago and I got really drunk by myself. In the morning I didn't attend any lectures and I was just in my room by myself. I was just sitting on my bed, waiting for my mom to come and pick me up to take me home and I saw my dinner knife on my desk. I was in a state where I would act on impulse and I was verge of just grabbing the knife and cutting my wrists or something (I know WTF.com doesn't like suicide stuff). You know when you do something otherwise you'll never know, like asking a girl out of impulse. That's the way I felt. I've been to see a doctor about this stuff and I've been okay for a week or two, but now it's come back. I really want a drink, but I don't want to get drunk and be in a state like that again.

Tonight I went over to on of my friend
 
Buy a 40 pound heavy bag (more often referred to as a punching bag), hang it in your room, or some other place you have access to 24 hrs a day and let out all the stuff you've bottled up on the bag. It really helps. I had a heavy bag for a while, until my ex-fiancee's son treated it like a fucking jungle gym and tore it out of the ceiling.

Whenever that broad pissed me off I'd go throw a couple roundhouses at it, or just generally beat the crap out of it, and feel a lot better. Keeping stuff bottled up like that really isn't healthy.
 
Thats good advice, it worked wonders with my brother, who also had an anger problem, his outlet was usually me or my mum, but mostly me, so when he finally got a punching bag, he would just beat the shit through it until he was A. over his anger, B. just to damn tired to come and dish it out on me.

Goodluck!
 
I'm gonna take a guess that right now you're without a GF? And it's been quite some time between a relationship?

I ask because it seems like frustration - no not sexual but just you don't seem to have anyone around that might put a little positivity (?) in your life. Hang in there, the advice below would be useful. You might just want to start walking/jogging or some other physical activity as well. It helps if you can actually DO something when you feel those odd urges. Instead of picking up the knife or punching some poor drunk person along the way or just bottling things. Step back, get outside and walk/run it off. My husband used to do this in school. It seemed to help him get through his low points.

Oh, you definitely need to be keeping in touch with your doc about this too, especially if the activities listed above don't seem to help.

Keep your chin up hun. Sounds like you're in a rut is all. :hug2:
 
Skip the 40 pound bag. It'll take a bit of shopping but find an 80 pound canvas bag. Don't get the rubber stuff, get the honest to God heavy canvas and a pair of leather gloves.

40 pounds goes flying with a good hit unless you teather it to the floor. 80 pounds'll move but it's way better to hit hard.
 
Hmmm, I'd have to disagree with this little bit of advice. It's a lot easier to vent your anger when you see that your venting is accomplishing something. Hit the 80 pound bag all you want and it's gonna laugh in your face more often than not, making you even more irritated. Like you said, the 40 lb bag would go flying, but that's results! And that's what he needs. :)
 
base, man. i know exactly how you feel. i have the same problem, except i haven't seen a doctor. when i feel like shit, like you do, i just turn on some loud, angry rock music, and relax. sometimes, singing with it helps. just let it out, nice and loud. another thing i do, is go into a yahoo chatroom and talk with some friends of mine there. i can either get my mind off whats troubling me, or they can help me work through it, find solutions. usually they suggest meditation, which wouldn't be such a bad idea.

another thing that's a good idea is the punching bag. I personally agree with uber more than ninja, but both are good suggestions. maybe you just need something physical to get out your frustrations.

another option as a mixture of the above stated would be jogging. go for a jog, bring some tunes with ya. just run, listen to the music, destroy your eardrums, sing if you must (if you do it early, no one will hear you). you should feel alot better.

also try to get away from most of the things that bother you. if you start to notice a trend of when these dips set it, think about it and start to avoid those things. like if its a person that sets you off, stay away from them. or the computer; take a break.

get better bro, i'll be rootin' for ya.
 
Thank you all for the advice people. It is greatly appreciated. I went looking for a punching bag yesterday but was unfortunate to purchase one.
Some other news about me is that this morning I have started on anti-depressant medication. I have been fiffing and faffing around too long trying alternative shit. My dad went with me to see the docs and the thing that shocked me that apparently I've been depressed for about three years. According to my father, because I've lived with him ever since I went through my roaccutane treatment and he has been noticing and he's been going through hell worrying about me and trying to help me. I personally thought that it had only been for the last few months or so. Wierd that I didn't even notice it. :confused:

But yes, I need some help and this medication aswel as the punching bag, jogging and music will help me. It better help me otherwise I'm out to get you all. Thanks alot once again
 
Nah, once you start hitting the 80 pound bag it gets moving as well. The more a bag moves the more you have to stop and reset it. And if he's pissed, throwing two punches, stop, grab the bag, make it still, hit it, make it still... that's just gonna piss him off more.

Besides, there's just something to the solid feel of a heavy bag that really helps.

Shit, if I could find one I'd buy a 120 at this point. The 80 moves too much.
 
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