I work my a** off so my wife can stay home with the kids. We have a wonderful home, two vacation homes, she drives a Mercedes, plays tennis at the country club, the whole bit.
Now, I know I have my faults. But for over 2 years she keeps complaining "you don't love me any more", "we aren't intimate," blah blah. Yeah it's true.
Here's a perfect example of why:
We are having a nice evening together, taking the kids out to eat, all is well. When we get into the car, she looks at this fat woman walking into a store and said "see, you could have had that." I said "What?" She said "that woman...you used to date her and your mom said you did because she looked like her...and that you were totally in love with her..." I said "I don't even know that woman..." and she said "sure you do, we've seen her before..."
Well, it's starting to click now for me: That was a lady that I took to a fraternity event (on the bus with 50 other people) 25 years ago in college and she has indeed porked out. But my wife will see her in public with me every now and then and she'll start this b.s. up again.
It's like she's mocking me or something. She'll try to say "You were serious with her werent' you?" and "you dated her didn't you?" when all of that is total b.s. and when I tell her, she says "that's not what your mom says."
So the bottom line is, she takes pleasure in mocking me. that's really intimate huh? So when I jumped all over her about it she acts all innocent like she didn't mean anything.
She says "OK OK OK I'll never bring her up again" (which she will), and I'm like "Look, I don't care if you bring her up again I have no problem with it, but enough of this "I was in love with her, dated her, she looked like my mother, etc." Then my wife says "but that wasn't what your mom said."
I'm all about fun and humor, but mocking is mocking. I guess when she can get a clue about disrespect, we might find a teeny weeny bit of intimacy some where.
But for now, I'm done. Not divorcing ever, but will just assume the position of mutual toleration till I die and be done with it.
Now, I know I have my faults. But for over 2 years she keeps complaining "you don't love me any more", "we aren't intimate," blah blah. Yeah it's true.
Here's a perfect example of why:
We are having a nice evening together, taking the kids out to eat, all is well. When we get into the car, she looks at this fat woman walking into a store and said "see, you could have had that." I said "What?" She said "that woman...you used to date her and your mom said you did because she looked like her...and that you were totally in love with her..." I said "I don't even know that woman..." and she said "sure you do, we've seen her before..."
Well, it's starting to click now for me: That was a lady that I took to a fraternity event (on the bus with 50 other people) 25 years ago in college and she has indeed porked out. But my wife will see her in public with me every now and then and she'll start this b.s. up again.
It's like she's mocking me or something. She'll try to say "You were serious with her werent' you?" and "you dated her didn't you?" when all of that is total b.s. and when I tell her, she says "that's not what your mom says."
So the bottom line is, she takes pleasure in mocking me. that's really intimate huh? So when I jumped all over her about it she acts all innocent like she didn't mean anything.
She says "OK OK OK I'll never bring her up again" (which she will), and I'm like "Look, I don't care if you bring her up again I have no problem with it, but enough of this "I was in love with her, dated her, she looked like my mother, etc." Then my wife says "but that wasn't what your mom said."
I'm all about fun and humor, but mocking is mocking. I guess when she can get a clue about disrespect, we might find a teeny weeny bit of intimacy some where.
But for now, I'm done. Not divorcing ever, but will just assume the position of mutual toleration till I die and be done with it.