needs advice
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Here is the story-
About a month ago a woman whom I used to date in college (while she lived on the west coast, she has since moved back to New York) asked me to go on a vacation with her. I informed her I was not in a financial position go, and she told me it was no problem and she would pay for everything. I agreed to go, and during the vacation we got drunk and had sex one time.
The woman had informed me that she was on birth control. However, after sobering up and realizing the possible consequences of my actions we also went and got the morning after pill. The weekend ended and we both flew home. Exactly two weeks later (on the day of her missed period) she called to tell me that she was pregnant, and she is keeping the child.
I am at a loss as to what I should do. I do not want to be the father of this woman's child (too late I know), nor do I want any type of relationship with this woman what so ever. Additionally, we live as far across the US as is possible.
I have over 8 months until the child will be born, at which time I will of course test for paternity. I have a life, career, aging parents, and siblings where I live. I will not be moving across the country. The greatest fear in my life is to be a bad father, but what can I possibly do? I feel completely powerless.
Please constructive advice only.
About a month ago a woman whom I used to date in college (while she lived on the west coast, she has since moved back to New York) asked me to go on a vacation with her. I informed her I was not in a financial position go, and she told me it was no problem and she would pay for everything. I agreed to go, and during the vacation we got drunk and had sex one time.
The woman had informed me that she was on birth control. However, after sobering up and realizing the possible consequences of my actions we also went and got the morning after pill. The weekend ended and we both flew home. Exactly two weeks later (on the day of her missed period) she called to tell me that she was pregnant, and she is keeping the child.
I am at a loss as to what I should do. I do not want to be the father of this woman's child (too late I know), nor do I want any type of relationship with this woman what so ever. Additionally, we live as far across the US as is possible.
I have over 8 months until the child will be born, at which time I will of course test for paternity. I have a life, career, aging parents, and siblings where I live. I will not be moving across the country. The greatest fear in my life is to be a bad father, but what can I possibly do? I feel completely powerless.
Please constructive advice only.