Am I wrong go through our computers history? Should I get a divorce?

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fuangel29

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My husband is a laid off roughneck. When he was working he was gone for a week at a time. We were trying to give one of our dogs with a medical problem up for adoption, so I put an ad up on a classifieds website becaused he didn't want her going to the pound. They require you to give email so I put my husbands email. I didn't realize that I had to click a link in the email to publish this ad so I got on said email to (I have his password, that he GAVE me) publish this ad. Well when logged in, I found multiple emails for a woman whom he was trying to buy some used sexual things from, telling her to do sexual things on said items. I confronted him about it, he said it was "Spam", right... Well I let it go. Yesterday I went through our history trying to find a link I lost to a website that I'm making for my sister. I come along websites such as ebanned, inflatables4sale, porn websites. I don't care if my husband watches porn, sometimes it bothers me but I'm not going to flip out over it. But the other websites are online bidding auctions for woman's personal/sexual items, used sexual items. This infuriated me to the point I really just wanted to scream. I couldn't believe he was trying to buy the stuff he was trying to buy especially when he has no job right now. I confronted him about it and his response was "if you didn't get on my stuff (our computer) then you wouldn't know about it and it wouldn't be a big deal..." We got in a huge fight where he continued to tell me stuff like "if you would do it for me I wouldn't have to buy stuff", "I'm going to cheat on you in the next year because sex is boring with you", "I didn't even want to get married, I want to have sex with different people", and on and on. He still sees nothing wrong with the things he does. Am I over reacting?
How should I be doing things that I didn't know about? Sorry I didn't get married to be dehumanized...
 
you are not wrong for going through the history of a shared computer!
a threat like that would result in divorce. the end.
 
I don't think you are wrong to think the way you do. I actually feel the biggest problem is not necessarily the fact that he looks to other sources in addition to you to help satisfy his needs. The biggest problem is his attitude about it.

In my opinion, what you should do is explain to him, CALMLY, why it hurts you. If he still has the same attitude and refuses to change, or says he will change but clearly does nothing to change despite your giving him sufficient time, then I suppose divorce would definately be an option at that point.
 
Hell no you are not overreacting! Besides the things he is doing on the internet this man has point blank told you he will cheat on you, didn't want to get married, sex is boring with you, and wants to have sex with other people. He says all this when he should be apologizing and trying to fix your marriage.

Give him what he wants - a divorce so he can go catch an STD. You deserve better than him.
 
well you should be doing those things so guess what he is going to continue to solicit those things
 
Leave his ass and divorce him hell no don't you ever let some guy say those things to you. Girl you could do better.

And what he is doing is not only creepy it's fucking nasty!
 
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