Am I selfish for not wanting any one else to cook in my kitchen?

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chinno98

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I feel like my kitchen is my place of the home. My husband gets the garage, pool table room, gun reloading room, and the yard to do all he wants to do. I feel like the kitchen is my territory and I should have the say in what goes where and who cooks in it. Basically I don't like anyone else taking over and cooking it in. When mother in law, guests, or even other family come, I dont want them cooking in it. We had people over last night who brought over a pork roast, and asked me to make the salad. Ok.... I figured they had it all cooked when they got here. No. They wanted to prepare it all here, in my kitchen, themselves, digging through cabinets & drawers, and trying to turn on the oven(turned on stove burner instead and somehow changed the clock on it....
Am I selfish and controlling??? I just dont want any of my precious things to get broken and I want to be the one to cook. If we go elsewhere, they can cook. I dont mind people asking to help and me giving them tasks to help with the meal, but I want to be the main chef of my kitchen.
 
No you are not being selfish, but you are over-reacting a little. I don't think it's that big of deal if once in a great while someone wants to come over and help you cook in your kitchen, but since it is so important to you. I would just tell people not to bring food over anymore when they come for dinner and maybe you can have the meal prepared before they get there.
 
I don't really blame you at all - I am the same about my lounge room and kitchen in my house (I live alone by the way). I just recently bought a new plasma screen tv and nobody is allowed to touch the remote but me - my sister tried to turn the tv off on the weekend, but didn't have knowledge about the remote(s) and tv and ended up buggering up the channels - I had to completely reprogram the channels into the tv after the mess she made.

I know they are just making a nice gesture and trying to help out - but back away from the stove and tv!
 
Yea, how to put this gently... it should be a fun time & a great time to gather & be together. My husband use to help me in the kitchen. He'd chop up whatever I would ask him. Sit at the table & chop up like zuchinni & squash & cheese etc to help make macaroni salad... I didn't know how to cook when we first started dating. I was still learning when we got married. Matter of fact for a wedding present my mom sent me a Better Homes & Gardens cookbook so that I'd stop calling her in the middle of her dinners asking for help! ha ha!!! My husband taught me how to make french toast when we started dating. My speciality was nuking a corndog with a slice of cheese laying over the top! ha ha We use to laugh about that. I definitely didn't get him thru his stomach; although, you could never tell now as I have many a good year practicing with recipes. =)
 
Your friends / family should be more precious than your kitchen things. Remember you can't take your favorite platter with you when you die!!!
You will have to get over this problem and learn to share your things.

I must say though, it does really annoy me too when people say they will bring a salad or a dish and bring the ingredients and then take over the kitchen cutting things up - Because usually I have it all planned out and how much room I will need and time to prepare things, people should bring their food contributions ready to eat and not get in your way.
I always take my dishes ready to eat to friends houses, it is just polite.
I guess a roast pork is ok to put in the oven, but they should tell you they are going to need the oven before they come over, so you can make room for it.
That's life, I don't know if you have kids or not, but I do and nothing is sacred anymore, they get their little fingers into everything!!
 
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