We have been married for 14 years and thought everything was great tell about 10 months ago. That's when wife admitted to me that she had a brief fling with someone from her work. Since then she has quit working for that company to show that she is serious about getting past this. She says and seems very sorry about the mistake. We have been going through counseling to see if can get past this not just for us but also for our 3 children (3, 5, 9). Great progress has been made in the counseling over the last 9 months and our relationship is really stronger then it ever has been. The problem is with sexual relationship and have been working at this for great majority of the counseling sessions. But very little progress seems to be made. We have not had intercourse since before found out about the affair. Every time we try to have actual intercourse my mind sees her with this other guy and well that causes complete deflation and ends it. We have tried many things to try and get past this role play, costumes, videos, oral you name it just nothing works. Lately I just perform oral on her but when she has tried to do same to me mind goes back and its all over. She is very frustrated, as am I, when get all worked up and I can not actually finish. The oral is not any better either if I do that for her she always loved for me to do it right after-wards and since can't she gets angry.
Am I just doomed to not being able to have a regular sex life with wife?
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