Am I dreaming to want a guy who isn't (or wasn't) promiscuous? Are there any

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guys who refuse to have flings? When I start a relationship with a guy, I know I shouldn't dwell on his past. If he's had many sexual partners before, it doesn't necessarily mean that he'll cheat on me or lose interest right away.

I don't mind if my guy had sex with his previous girlfriends, but it bothers me when I find out that he's had casual encounters, f*ck buddies, and/or sex since he was 12. Even if I like/love my guy, I still can't help feeling like he's "used" goods or possibly comparing me to girls in his past. The worst is when I meet a guy who isn't that interested in sex because he's had a lot of it already.

My three ex-boyfriends told me they wanted to "settle down" with me since I'm a "good girl." I should appreciate that they didn't see me as a piece of @ss. But is it so wrong to want a guy who was at least a bit more selective in who he slept with? It's such a turn-off for me when a guy seemed too available to every girl who was willing to sleep with him.
 
I've never been promiscuous. I would never have a fling, one night stand, "friend with benefits," or anything like that. I really don't see the point. Casual sex has always just seemed sad to me -- like you're faking intimacy with someone you don't really love.

So no, you're not dreaming. We do exist. We get ostracized a lot, though, and not just by other guys. A girl will complain about guys acting stereotypical but act like there's something wrong with a guy if he's not all over her after a date or two.
 
No, you are not wrong, you have common sense and guys who have been "over sexed" in general have developed bad habits that might not show themselves to after the guy is comfortable with the relationship. You don't want used up or tainted goods, if the roles were reversed a lot of guys would say that about women, its just socially ok in our society for a guy to be a player while a girl is a whore.
 
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