Am I doing something wrong (too clingy, etc.)? How do I discuss this with him?

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3/4 weeks. The first 2 weeks we were always together after school, and we moved really fast from just hugging and holding hands to kissing. Then last week he came at lunch instead a few times because he had to go somewhere after school. I didn't want to be clingy, so I didn't even ask him where he was going or anything. Then, when I scheduled a date last Saturday, he agreed, but then told me that he couldn't anymore. I said okay. This whole week has been horrible, because I'm really not sure. He's the sweetest ever, but I sometimes feel like he's ignoring me. This whole week I saw him for 5 minutes each day, and then after school yesterday we finally got together after school properly. I thought everything was okay. But then today, I saw him in between classes, and said hi, but didn't hug him, since I was in a hurry to get to class a little earlier to talk to the teacher. He didn't come, not during lunch, nor after school. I saw him for 2 seconds today.
Is it that I am too clingy, or not enough clingy? Whenever something comes up, I don't ask him what it is, since I feel that he needs his privacy also. I didn't hug him today. I texted him later today, asking if I'll see him tommorow. No response as of yet. Also, he seems to be in a weird mood whenever I'm with him. He always held my hand and hugged me, but now it's so much more awkward, because I'm not sure if he wants to hold hands, since before he started it. Now he just shoves them in his pockets.
I'm sorry, I feel stupid now. But I want to know if it seems that I'm doing something wrong. And also, how can I discuss this with him honestly, without turning on the stupid damn waterworks?

Thank you.
Eh. I forgot to add that I did ask. I asked him if there was something wrong with what I was doing. He said no and didn't look me in the face.
 
You are not to clingy you are wondering what he changed his behavior all of a sudden and I don't know the answer to that you will have to asked him as far as the waterworks if you cry you cry one way or another you deserve an explanation and the only one that can give that to you is him
 
It's so hard to tell what is really going on .I don't know your age or much of anything else .People have a tendency to read too much into little things like if you didn't stop to talk to him or hold his hand or if you hugged him one day and then you didn't the next .Imagination can run wild and when it does it is usually in the negative direction .It's always best to just be kind to each other and talk about these little doubts and fears before they cause you to break up .Maybe he is having second thoughts or who knows what .Ask him and see what he says .
 
I hate it when guys act like that x.x
Give him a little more time and if the behavior persists you really just have to talk to him about it. Theres nothing wrong with you. You're not clingy, you're giving him a lot of free reign. If you do need to talk to him, make sure you're relaxed, that might help the waterworks. And remember, he's a boy and he's stupid and he probably doesn't even know he's upsetting you. LOL
 
You just need to relax. You are over thinking this way too much. First of all there is no such thing as "not enough clingy". You should never be attempting to act clingy, overbearing, or the like. Being patient is the best solution here. Odds are there is something else going on behind the scenes here. I don't know how much you know about this guy's life, but maybe he has other issues that you don't see. First try to find out if there is something going on in the other parts of his life that are affecting him this way. If he doesn't open up to you, well that really sucks. All I know is that being the girlfriend who constantly worries about a guy and is always checking to see if everything is okay (works the same the other way around too) is very unattractive and is not how you are going to break through to him. My honest no BS solution if he is suggesting the problem is you is to stop paying so much attention to him, and if he really likes you he'll come around.
Cheers and good luck
 
How old is he? It sounds like it may have run its course and is now ending. Prepare yourself. But don't get down in the dumps, there are so many more guys who would love to hold your hand. :)
 
Just ask him if something is wrong with him or if you've done something wrong. The only way to know is by talking openly about it with him.


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How old is he? It sounds like it may have run its course and is now ending. Prepare yourself. But don't get down in the dumps, there are so many more guys who would love to hold your hand. :)
 
How old is he? It sounds like it may have run its course and is now ending. Prepare yourself. But don't get down in the dumps, there are so many more guys who would love to hold your hand. :)
 
Push the point a little bit. You know how they say that relationships are about communication? It's so freaking true. Even if what he really wants is out, he needs to communicate that to you honestly and fairly.

So this will take guts and it might cause you to cry, but you're going to have to ask him to be honest with you about what he wants. Does he want more space? Does he want out? And if he wants to be in the relationship, tell him what -you- want, too.

If at any point he seems to be avoiding being honest with you, don't let him get away with it. Guys (and girls!) will avoid telling you the truth automatically, if they think it's not what you want to hear. They need to get past that. It's your job to keep him on track, as long as he's dating you.
 
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