Am I being mean denying my partner intimate moments with me?

Emile

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We were engaged and he cheated and we broken when I was 16 weeks pregnant. Our daughter is now 4 weeks old, she was born at 34 weeks. We got back together one week after he birth but are taking this slowly because I'm not completely sure I trust him, I want to build up the trust before I let him back into my heart. He says he feels like he's dying inside because I've only just let him touch me again - like hold my hand - but I won't let him kiss me, tell me he loves me or have sex with him. I won't even leave him alone with our daughter. I feel like I'm being mean to him because I won't let him have any intimate moments with me.
I trust him that he won't cheat again I just can't trust him not to break my heart again. He never told me he cheated, I found out. One of the women had turned on my video camera which was on the nightstand, I found out by transferring the data onto my computer as the camera wasn't full when I had used it last.
 
I don't think it's wrong at all. He shouldn't be forcing this on you anyway. He should be working on being a good father first, a good partner to you second, and himself third.
 
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