Ok me (age 16) and my girlfriend( age 17) have been dating know for 9 months. At first it was wonderful it was alot of fun to be around here and it still is but she want me know like everyday. i never get anytime to do anything and it seem like i always have to move my schedual around to do things. She never has anything to do but work on tuesdays and thursdays and 2 hours of dance practice on various days. i have college art classes friends and faimly to see. I just want to know if im being selfish because she is mad at me right now because i saw her yesterday for a hour and wensday for 7 hours and today i wanna spend some time to myself. I've told her i was tired and wanted to spend sometime to myself and she says im a lier i dont love her and im a dick. Yahoo what do you think?
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Alright im having some relashionship issues and i need help?
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GreenEyedGirl
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I think she is too needy. You are right you need a balanced life. Her making you spend every second with her is NOT fair. You did the right thing, and if she is all mad and pouty then thats her problem.
GreenEyedGirl
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I think she is too needy. You are right you need a balanced life. Her making you spend every second with her is NOT fair. You did the right thing, and if she is all mad and pouty then thats her problem.
Rhea Shidou
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Oye oye oye, I hate it when that happens. (happened to me too).
Alllrighty here I go, and I hope this could shed light on your situation:
When a relationship starts its always fun and games, but after time passing things begin to settle down and become almost routine like how they used to be + time with that special person. For you, it's probably settled already, and you're back into the groove of your obligations and your family loyalty. your girlfriend, unfortunatly, has probably not settled back.
It appears you have a busy schedule, and she doesn't have much to do. That could be a problem. Her spare time is used on you, all the time, because she has enough spare time to spread it out. You (assumingly) do not have enough to use a majority of it on her, because you would like to see your family, take care of yourself, and take care of college work.
7 hours of a day is more or less half of the time you're awake. Make it clear that you are spending as much time with her as you can, but you have priorities that are just as important in different circumstances.
you are not being selfish, you are taking care of yourself. She is the one being selfish by making you go change everything so you can see her. Tell her that- your schedule has to be changed all the time for her to see him and its a lot harder for you because you have more to do. If she has all this free time, can't she change hers around sometimes? It's only fair.
Theres nothing wrong with spending time with yourself and relaxing. If she decided to get pissy and call you a lier and a dick, and then question your devotion to her, I think that's a damn good reason to get mad.
You're not lieing if you're tired and explain it.
You're not a dick if you spend so much time with her and you need a break once in a while. Seriously, how often can you be with someone and NOT get bored?
You love her, and she denies it? she needs to stop being rash and stop questioning you over something so trivial- I think SHE is the one who needs to be questioned if she keeps that up.
I think you're not selfish, and that she is.
I think that you have a solid grip on what you have/need to do, and she doesnt.
But I do think that after discussing and talking about it, you both will be okay.
Alllrighty here I go, and I hope this could shed light on your situation:
When a relationship starts its always fun and games, but after time passing things begin to settle down and become almost routine like how they used to be + time with that special person. For you, it's probably settled already, and you're back into the groove of your obligations and your family loyalty. your girlfriend, unfortunatly, has probably not settled back.
It appears you have a busy schedule, and she doesn't have much to do. That could be a problem. Her spare time is used on you, all the time, because she has enough spare time to spread it out. You (assumingly) do not have enough to use a majority of it on her, because you would like to see your family, take care of yourself, and take care of college work.
7 hours of a day is more or less half of the time you're awake. Make it clear that you are spending as much time with her as you can, but you have priorities that are just as important in different circumstances.
you are not being selfish, you are taking care of yourself. She is the one being selfish by making you go change everything so you can see her. Tell her that- your schedule has to be changed all the time for her to see him and its a lot harder for you because you have more to do. If she has all this free time, can't she change hers around sometimes? It's only fair.
Theres nothing wrong with spending time with yourself and relaxing. If she decided to get pissy and call you a lier and a dick, and then question your devotion to her, I think that's a damn good reason to get mad.
You're not lieing if you're tired and explain it.
You're not a dick if you spend so much time with her and you need a break once in a while. Seriously, how often can you be with someone and NOT get bored?
You love her, and she denies it? she needs to stop being rash and stop questioning you over something so trivial- I think SHE is the one who needs to be questioned if she keeps that up.
I think you're not selfish, and that she is.
I think that you have a solid grip on what you have/need to do, and she doesnt.
But I do think that after discussing and talking about it, you both will be okay.