It's seems that what is wrong is the lack of honesty.. The wife believes in a myth that ignores that we men like strange stuff every once in a while. Too bad people keep believing in a myth that causes so much pain , most marriages fail after 5 years but they are going to be the lucky ones because of True love, why not share the truth with a loved one that your little head causes trouble every once and a while and it's only life ...more swinging or swapping might help