Now that I am a young adult, I can understand that my father regularly abused alcohol and was addicted to it for much of my childhood. This addiction caused for many miserable nights and days. My father would go out on drinking binges while my mom would wail like a helpless child and call him every 15 minutes. I remember this occurring from ages 6 to 13 and I remember I was at my mom's side. I didn't understand why my mom was crying as a child but this was very traumatizing to watch her. I also remember seeing my dad very drunk and it was confusing; I didn't understand why the drink made my dad a different person. I remember my dad puking and becoming sick. He broke my closet from a drunken stupor he was in. I witnessed that and I thought my dad was really selfish for drinking and staying out at night while we would be worried sick.
10 years later.
My father is a bit more controlled about his drinking but we still have those nights where he is out at night. He is an older man and so he does not drink often outside of home, but he still does. Last year, we found out about my younger brother's boozing. partying and drug life-style when he got involved in something. Though he has been sober for 12 months, my brother expresses interest to drink drink drink. I told him that our dad had a problem with alcohol and my brother said i was deluded with my memories. but my mother remembers them and so does my father (to some extent). I am extremely stressed by my brother's situation because drinking has only brought him trouble and he is an impressionable person with a while lot of maturing to do. One of the major reasons WHY my brother wants to drink is because my dad does. My brother told us that when asked by his friends if our parents don't mind him staying out and drinking, he said "NOPE, my dad comes after me".
My parents don't want to take ownership to how my son turned out... and they always fight about who spoiled my brother. whenever I try to give my brother advice, he gets extremely angry and confrontational. My brother sees no issue at being at the place my dad was; but my brother's memory is flawed. he makes no logical sense and just yells at me without listening to me. I care about my family but i don't want to mess up my life by spending too much energy on family troubles... what's a person to do?
10 years later.
My father is a bit more controlled about his drinking but we still have those nights where he is out at night. He is an older man and so he does not drink often outside of home, but he still does. Last year, we found out about my younger brother's boozing. partying and drug life-style when he got involved in something. Though he has been sober for 12 months, my brother expresses interest to drink drink drink. I told him that our dad had a problem with alcohol and my brother said i was deluded with my memories. but my mother remembers them and so does my father (to some extent). I am extremely stressed by my brother's situation because drinking has only brought him trouble and he is an impressionable person with a while lot of maturing to do. One of the major reasons WHY my brother wants to drink is because my dad does. My brother told us that when asked by his friends if our parents don't mind him staying out and drinking, he said "NOPE, my dad comes after me".
My parents don't want to take ownership to how my son turned out... and they always fight about who spoiled my brother. whenever I try to give my brother advice, he gets extremely angry and confrontational. My brother sees no issue at being at the place my dad was; but my brother's memory is flawed. he makes no logical sense and just yells at me without listening to me. I care about my family but i don't want to mess up my life by spending too much energy on family troubles... what's a person to do?