I am a male, 23 years old. Employed. In grad school
My sister, 29 years old. Employed with slightly better wages.
Our father, 55. Unemployed. Widower.
Yesterday I was driving and she was riding with me and i had to get gas. I took a while and I didn't mean to, but I knew she's make a joke of it. i was annoyed by her comment but I held in that feeling, like i have done 80% of the time during the past 5 years that I've lived with her. Then 5 minutes later I am trying to drive through a parking lot and it's rainy and cold with foggy windows. She shrieks, a big no-no when someone is trying to drive, and says "Don't hit this guy, ahead!" when there was nobody even close to me or near any harm.
My reply was a natural reaction: "Fuck" and I don't curse often. My sister swears like a sailor and has done so for the past 5 years, even goading me into swearing more often. But for some reason this was completely shocking to her, or she's just acting as if she is so offended by the F-word from me, even that one time that I did not mean to use it. I told her I did not mean it, I even explained my reaction and true feelings. Since then she has not shown me any respect, hardly talking to me except to criticize me and my father and give me the ugliest frown.
To be honest I was tempted to beat her or kill her. We have a nice big pistol in our apartment that she, my father and I all share and I was very afraid that sometime last night she may continue to snap and use that gun and kill someone, most likely me. My dad forced me to talk about the incident because he could tell that something was wrong with me and he broke down in tears because Mom is dead and all she would want is for us to be peaceful. But my sister is always annoyed when my dad is crying about Mom, When my Dad goes off onto his misogynistic tangent (one that I also don't agree with) that really pisses my sister off and she becomes more disrespectful and I regret talking to my Dad because he's not helping. As he cried, all my sister did was tell me sarcastically "Thanks a lot."
I left early this morning, and did not even look at my sister. I don't want to go back. I really am starting to hate my sister and her double standard on me. What do I do?
My sister, 29 years old. Employed with slightly better wages.
Our father, 55. Unemployed. Widower.
Yesterday I was driving and she was riding with me and i had to get gas. I took a while and I didn't mean to, but I knew she's make a joke of it. i was annoyed by her comment but I held in that feeling, like i have done 80% of the time during the past 5 years that I've lived with her. Then 5 minutes later I am trying to drive through a parking lot and it's rainy and cold with foggy windows. She shrieks, a big no-no when someone is trying to drive, and says "Don't hit this guy, ahead!" when there was nobody even close to me or near any harm.
My reply was a natural reaction: "Fuck" and I don't curse often. My sister swears like a sailor and has done so for the past 5 years, even goading me into swearing more often. But for some reason this was completely shocking to her, or she's just acting as if she is so offended by the F-word from me, even that one time that I did not mean to use it. I told her I did not mean it, I even explained my reaction and true feelings. Since then she has not shown me any respect, hardly talking to me except to criticize me and my father and give me the ugliest frown.
To be honest I was tempted to beat her or kill her. We have a nice big pistol in our apartment that she, my father and I all share and I was very afraid that sometime last night she may continue to snap and use that gun and kill someone, most likely me. My dad forced me to talk about the incident because he could tell that something was wrong with me and he broke down in tears because Mom is dead and all she would want is for us to be peaceful. But my sister is always annoyed when my dad is crying about Mom, When my Dad goes off onto his misogynistic tangent (one that I also don't agree with) that really pisses my sister off and she becomes more disrespectful and I regret talking to my Dad because he's not helping. As he cried, all my sister did was tell me sarcastically "Thanks a lot."
I left early this morning, and did not even look at my sister. I don't want to go back. I really am starting to hate my sister and her double standard on me. What do I do?