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bex7
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Hello! I am new to this site, I am so glad that I found it.
I would appreciate your views/insight.
I have been in a relationship with a man for 2 and a half years.
He is a musician. He uses marijuana. I dont use any substance and rarely drink alcohol.
At first I thought he occasionally used recreationally at practice/in the studio etc...and occasionally at home.
I am an attorney and also a mom of a 5 year old, so I told him I would not allow pot in my home/car/around my child.
He gave me a real hard time about this, told me I was uptight.
I stuck to my boundaries, despite his protests.
I should add we do not live together, we live 2 hours apart, but see eachother approx every 10-14 days, depending on schedules.
The more I got to know him, the more I became concerned about his "use". He would use when stressed or sad, in other worRAB to "escape"
I challenged him each time, and he would get very defensive telling me I knew nothing about pot, that he wanted it in his life and could stop any time.
I found this odd. His family then confided in me that they thought he was an "addict"
This blew my mind, and scared me, especially as I have a child, so I took it upon myself to start researching addiction, spoke to my doctor, a psychologist etc....
I then began to think he uses pot as a "crutch" to get through life.
He would say all musicians use it, and its no big deal. He lives in a very liberal state where pot is readily accepted.
anyway, I started to see behaviours I did not like....mood swings/depression/being lathargic etc.....and becming abusive...verbally and emotionally.
I then became unsure whether this was drug related or just his character.
I became sick last year with a serious infection, I was given morphine by my doctor when I was released from ER....and my boyfriend asked if he could have some...I said no, and was prety horrified at the suggestion, he proceeded to call me a selfish bitch for not sharing my meRAB.
I confided this in his family as I was so hurt/worried...they thought he should go for an assesment at a Rehab clinic. He reluctantly agreed.
The assesment concluded that he was an "addict" and should be enrolled in a 28 days detox. the therapist called me into his room and said, life with him would be one big mess without intervention......I was so confused and cynical at this stage...it really shook me up.
He holRAB down a job, hes in 2 banRAB, he functions daily BUT he does use at least every other day....can anyone give their advice on this ?
Thank you for your time!
I would appreciate your views/insight.
I have been in a relationship with a man for 2 and a half years.
He is a musician. He uses marijuana. I dont use any substance and rarely drink alcohol.
At first I thought he occasionally used recreationally at practice/in the studio etc...and occasionally at home.
I am an attorney and also a mom of a 5 year old, so I told him I would not allow pot in my home/car/around my child.
He gave me a real hard time about this, told me I was uptight.
I stuck to my boundaries, despite his protests.
I should add we do not live together, we live 2 hours apart, but see eachother approx every 10-14 days, depending on schedules.
The more I got to know him, the more I became concerned about his "use". He would use when stressed or sad, in other worRAB to "escape"
I challenged him each time, and he would get very defensive telling me I knew nothing about pot, that he wanted it in his life and could stop any time.
I found this odd. His family then confided in me that they thought he was an "addict"
This blew my mind, and scared me, especially as I have a child, so I took it upon myself to start researching addiction, spoke to my doctor, a psychologist etc....
I then began to think he uses pot as a "crutch" to get through life.
He would say all musicians use it, and its no big deal. He lives in a very liberal state where pot is readily accepted.
anyway, I started to see behaviours I did not like....mood swings/depression/being lathargic etc.....and becming abusive...verbally and emotionally.
I then became unsure whether this was drug related or just his character.
I became sick last year with a serious infection, I was given morphine by my doctor when I was released from ER....and my boyfriend asked if he could have some...I said no, and was prety horrified at the suggestion, he proceeded to call me a selfish bitch for not sharing my meRAB.
I confided this in his family as I was so hurt/worried...they thought he should go for an assesment at a Rehab clinic. He reluctantly agreed.
The assesment concluded that he was an "addict" and should be enrolled in a 28 days detox. the therapist called me into his room and said, life with him would be one big mess without intervention......I was so confused and cynical at this stage...it really shook me up.
He holRAB down a job, hes in 2 banRAB, he functions daily BUT he does use at least every other day....can anyone give their advice on this ?
Thank you for your time!