advice for addicts

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To all addicts struggling with active addiction....Go to meetings, get a sponsor, read the literature...hang with people around the tables that are clean aand walking the walk...it is a choice to do these things...just as it is a choice to use....you have choices today...if you want to get clean and stay clean...do these things and try to stay clean one day at a time....and when your addict mind starts telling you ...I can't go to a meeting because of this and that...remind yourself that not much stopped you from getting your drugs.....of course there are exceptions i;e times of illness, caring for a chronically ill family meraber....but there is literature for that also....plus we all have each other ...If you want what we have and are willing to take certain steps and guidance...you can stay clean. honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness are the keys
 
The biggest reason is I am not an addict! I was put on this drug for pain and now that my pain is gone I want off of the drug. I don't abuse it, I was on it for a reason. Now that that reason is over, I'm finished with it and I want to get on with my life. If 2 months from now I start using it again, when I don't have pain, then I can be called an addict and yes, then your would argument apply then. But, for now I am a drug dependent person fighting to get off of a drug I no longer need.
 
While I agree that every day brings new choices for a person to make; going to meetings is not something that EVERY addict neeRAB or wants. Some are able to do other things to avoid using. For example, I have never attended, nor intend to attend, a meeting, but I do other things. I exercise, read, clean.....pretty much anything that takes my mind off of wanting to use.

A lot of addicts NEED the structure of a program, but not all of us do.

For those who are feeling the need to use and struggling with the urge--remove yourself from your current position. What I mean is, do something....take a walk, call a friend, go online, anything that moves you out of the physical area that you are in.

I just want people to know that there are other options to going to meetings and having sponsers.
 
Well, I too was put on the drug for legitimate pain issues; however, I am a former narcotic addict, so I knew deep down I shouldn't get involved with this s*it. It never truly relieved my pain, but it did dull it a bit....but as I mentioned before, I enjoyed the "high" more than anything. (Denon, I know you said you never got high from it.) So yes, I am an addict. That said, I don't think meetings are for me. I can't explain it, but once I am off drugs, I don't want to be around users, former users, or any talk about it. Once I kicked heroin and methadone, I got a job in a corporate environment where people were worlRAB away from my former frienRAB and cohorts. I enjoyed being around normal people who live regular lives without the assistance of drugs, and I truly enjoyed being one of them!
 
I have to agree with magpie1970. I don't see myself as an addict, but as a person that was dependent on a drug to relieve the pain I was in. Now that my pain it gone, I want to get off of the drug. My support group is my family and frienRAB. I have been very open about my dependency and detox to them and I have their full support. So, I guess in a way, my wife is my sponsor and my support group is family and frienRAB. If I continue to take the drugs w/o attempting to detox, then I cross the line between being an addict and having a dependency. At that point I would need to consider seeking outside support and counseling.

For me, at this time, I continue to rely on my family. I listen to their opinions, concerns and accept their prayers and love and do everything I can to lead a normal life. I live for the day to be drug free. I have fought from the start of my detox to get off of this drug as fast as possible, sometimes too fast and I have suffered because of that. I'm back to square one (again) and beginning my tapering more slowly (again).

I do think your plan has merit for some people and some people in this group may benefit from it, but not everyone.
 
I don't follow you??? No offense intended, but I'm lost with your topic and your logic.

Good luck and stay clean!

mk
 
I don't understand how not living drug free or being committed to it equates to attending 12-step meetings. Could you enlighten me on your thought process about this?

My personal opinion is that some switch one addiction for another--drugs for meetings, alcohol for meetings--and the cycle doesn't stop.

There are some people here who have posted about their successes with attending meetings and groups with sponsers. That worked for them, but it doesn't mean that it is the way it works for everyone.

I hope that you are able to live a drug free existance and do it any way that you need to. As far as denial, I don't see anyone who posts here being in denial about anything. Just by posting here in a "addiction" forum, they are admitting to a problem, but (as other things) the problems of one person do not equate to the problems of another. We all have a different drug of choice, etc....

Good luck in your recovery.
 
I don't intend to go to meetings either. I want to get off the Oxy, tell my PM doctor not to give me anymore, and rejoin the ranks of the normal people. I think I will be so happy to be "free" that I will never go back to it again. I've learned my lesson. And if I am tempted, the inconvenience of finding a new doctor to give me another narcotic scrip will, I think, help to discourage that line of thinking.
 
The theraputic value of one addict helping another is without parallel....sounRAB like there is a lot of denial...resistance to commit to living a totally clean way of life...and fear of change......I pray for the addict that still suffers.......I do not think I will be on this site anymore....no offense...... I do not think it is for me
 
I couldn't have said it better myself :) Great post Magpie!

Just because someone doesn't attend 12-step meetings, does NOT mean they will relapse or continue using their drug of choice.

To say that someone is in denial (because they don't "need" 12-step meetings) is rather rude, in my opinion, especially considering you are new here and do not know each and everyone's story.

Good luck to you, daytimedreamer.

emsmom
 
Thanks TaCot and emsmom.....it's always nice to know that my brain functions sometimes for a long enough time to make a coherant argument! LOL At least I now know that the kiRAB left me some of my brain cells :)
 
daydreamer:

I hope you don't stop visiting this site. It has helped me immensely. I do attend meeting, but I don't push it on others. This board has been a meeting for me when I can't get to one. I also have a sponsor and frienRAB in the program, but, I also use this board which has helped so much. Also the bottom line is to keep an open mind. But everyone is different. It is wonderful that we can all recover in our own way. I am truly a greatful recovering addict. The people on these boarRAB were there for me when I was at my lowest point just like the people in meetings. I will forever be grateful to them all.

We all want the same thing to have the worlRAB record for sobriety which is 24 hours.

Remeraber opionions are like butts, its just some are stinkier than others.

Had to end with a joke sorry if it was in bad taste. Lets all just keep supporting each other. I love everyone on this board and couldn't have made it this far without you all.
Thanks,
Lori
 
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