I have been with my finance for 6 years, we are getting married on the 2nd July this year and have two kids together. His family on the other hand are a nightmare, from the moment my son was born (May 2007) the have constantly rung and demanded we came over to there house as people wanted to see my son. Like an idiot, the first few times we did as we were so proud of him and wanted to show him off. Then it would get to the point that they would ring an hour before they were going out and demanded we came! Things have got even worse now.
My daughter was born in March 2009 and they show very little interest in her and only want to see my son, this annoys me greatly as they treat my fiance and his sister so differently I don't want this to happen to them. Here is a bit of backgound on how they treat my fiance in comparison to his sister.
- He had to pay his dad back monthly for his car
- They brought his sister a car and she doesn't even have to pay petrol!
- One christmas they brought his sister a wii for christmas
- That same christmas my fiance got second hand suit
- For my fiance's 21st they had a party in their back garden
- For his sisters 21st they are throwing her a massive party in a hotel!
I know I have waffeled on a bit, the main thing I want advice on is the following:
His sisters birthday is the 9th May, they are throwing her party on the 5th June (as a lot of her friends are taking exams in may). My parents asked us months ago about taking the children to Ireland to see family for a week at the begining of june and we agreed, this has now been booked. His parents are now demanding that the children come to the party and they cancel their trip to Ireland, the children will be 1 and 3 years old, they will not be awake past 8pm for the party anyway!
Am I being totally unreasonable for sticking to my principles in wanting the children to go to Ireland and not to the party?? Its not like they are missing her actual birthday?
How can I politely tell his parents to back off and stop trying to make us live our lives around their arrangements?
My daughter was born in March 2009 and they show very little interest in her and only want to see my son, this annoys me greatly as they treat my fiance and his sister so differently I don't want this to happen to them. Here is a bit of backgound on how they treat my fiance in comparison to his sister.
- He had to pay his dad back monthly for his car
- They brought his sister a car and she doesn't even have to pay petrol!
- One christmas they brought his sister a wii for christmas
- That same christmas my fiance got second hand suit
- For my fiance's 21st they had a party in their back garden
- For his sisters 21st they are throwing her a massive party in a hotel!
I know I have waffeled on a bit, the main thing I want advice on is the following:
His sisters birthday is the 9th May, they are throwing her party on the 5th June (as a lot of her friends are taking exams in may). My parents asked us months ago about taking the children to Ireland to see family for a week at the begining of june and we agreed, this has now been booked. His parents are now demanding that the children come to the party and they cancel their trip to Ireland, the children will be 1 and 3 years old, they will not be awake past 8pm for the party anyway!
Am I being totally unreasonable for sticking to my principles in wanting the children to go to Ireland and not to the party?? Its not like they are missing her actual birthday?
How can I politely tell his parents to back off and stop trying to make us live our lives around their arrangements?