A relationship with no future? Indian/Desi culture urgent help?

[Kewl D]

Hello, I am in a terrible situation. My girlfriend and I have been together for over 7 years now. We met at our university orientation way back in 2002. We're 25 years old and very serious about each other and thinking about our future together and everything about our lives together. It's been nothing but a dream come true

It sounds all good doesnt it. There's one problem though. I'm black and she is Indian. After seven years, she finally came out to her parents about me and about us. Her parents have threatened to send her away over seas or disown her if she does not leave me. They say being with me and even thinking about marriage with a black man is a disgrace and shame to the family. Her family is quite well off and is even affluent as well in India. Although my family may not have much in regards to hers, I am currently working on my PhD and should graduate with my doctorate this semester. I dont understand how I can possibly be a shame to her or her family. We're very much in love and shes very happy with me. I didnt know there was racism like this in Indian families (I know not all are like this and i do not want to stereotype). I have read however of many incidents like mine and it's really saddening for me. What do I do? I don't want her to be disowned from her family no matter how much I love her. That'd be selfish of me. I know in the end it's her choice. I just want her to be happy. I love her so much.

To all the desi people out there is there anyway I could possibly convince her parents or family to accept me? She doesn't know what to do. I don't know what to do. What do we do?

Please no racist comments

Thank you

 

[khole12]

you are 2 grown people-you can elope, live together, outright marry-whatever. This is only me-ifirst it's only proper to ask her father for her hand, tell him that you are a p.h.d. have a future ect. He may only want what's best for his little girl.
In the end, it will have to be her decision. Some hard things are blessings in diguise. You two are in love. you have already asked for her hand in maarriage-take the next step. Her family is living in America now. 25 years old is old enough. If i were you, i'd marry her, move to the opposite corner of the u.s. than her parents, and live out the rest of your days in peace. They are going to do what they are going to do, and you should not feel selfish for rescuing your girlfriend from this stupid situation.

 

[Bill]

wow this is one f*cked up situation. if i were her i dont even think i would want a family like that anyway. sorry no advice just comments.

 

[Farwa ♥]

you are the sweetest person ever.
i don't know much about indian/desi weddings, but in many cases of all kinds, parents are a big influence. i think you should try to show her parents that you're worth it; i know you shouldn't hae to prove yourself to anyone, but desperate times?

good luck!!