A lot of femme gays complain that butch men don't find them attractive, are they even...

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Tony K

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...attracted to each other? My thing is, I'm a masculine gay male who only dates masculine gay men. I don't hate femme gay men; I'm always willing to be their friend but nothing more. They're simply not my type. A lot of femme gay men get offended or feel discouraged by the fact that some masculine men aren't interested in them sexually. But my question is, are these same femme gay men attracted to other femme gay men?

If not, then wouldn't that make them hypocrites? If they look at other femme gay men and NOT get turned on then why is it a problem when a masculine gay man doesn't get turned on by them?

(Yes, I'm aware that some masculine gay men date femmes and some femmes date other femmes. But that's not what I'm talking about right now)
 
If only we could choose who we're attracted to! I don't think femme guys are hypocrites for not liking femmes. We all like who we like.

But that's exactly why you're right to get annoyed by femme guys acting like you're obligated to find them attractive. Part of it may stem from femme guys' desire to be with macho men who they feel complement their femininity and give them a sense of security and protection. I know for myself that as a feminine bottom, I'm naturally attracted to very masculine men. And given the shortage of masculine top guys out there, it can be frustrating when masculine guy after masculine guy turns you down for being too femme.

Nonetheless, nobody can force someone else to like them. As another user has said, that kind of attitude comes from being stuck up. My advice is to let such petty, stuck-up guys' complaints go in one ear and out the other.
 
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