when i have sex, getting him in is rather painful at first. after about 30 seconds its not painful anymore though. but about 20 minutes in i start to feel chafy 'in there' and it starts to hurt. then going to the loo afterwards is mega painful. i mean, size-wise, he's on the rather large side, and i'm on the very small side.
why, after four months of regular sex (as in varying from once or twice a week, to once a day, to twice a day sometimes.) why is it still painful for him to get in, and why is it painful afterwards. i don't have cystitis, and i'm using a coil rather than condoms or the pill (for medical reasons. allergic to latex, and doctors don't want me putting any hormones into my body while they're solving what's going on with my periods. i don't get them, i had an operation to see if it was premature ovarian failure. awaiting results) so i have the coil (we also both got STI and STD tests before doing it, in case we were carrying any nasties. we were both clean). also, last weekend, we did it twice friday, and twice saturday. but sunday i couldnt do it at all, even though i wanted to, it was too painful down there.
anyway, what can i do for it to hurt less, and why does peeing hurt, why does down there hurt, what's making it hurt.
help please?
Freya
why, after four months of regular sex (as in varying from once or twice a week, to once a day, to twice a day sometimes.) why is it still painful for him to get in, and why is it painful afterwards. i don't have cystitis, and i'm using a coil rather than condoms or the pill (for medical reasons. allergic to latex, and doctors don't want me putting any hormones into my body while they're solving what's going on with my periods. i don't get them, i had an operation to see if it was premature ovarian failure. awaiting results) so i have the coil (we also both got STI and STD tests before doing it, in case we were carrying any nasties. we were both clean). also, last weekend, we did it twice friday, and twice saturday. but sunday i couldnt do it at all, even though i wanted to, it was too painful down there.
anyway, what can i do for it to hurt less, and why does peeing hurt, why does down there hurt, what's making it hurt.
help please?
Freya